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The complications and triumphs of a sub living in a Dom’s world
10 months ago. Dec 15, 2019, 9:30 AM

The spectrum of submission


As a woman who recognizes myself as a sexual submissive, I have learned and realized that my submission fluctuates.


This may frustrate, annoy and make “strict” Dominants and ‘conservative’submissives roll eyes.


While reading my post, please remember BDSM is a sexual minority group; a group that is already met with misunderstanding and judgement. It is contradicting to judge one another when we’ve come here for an outlet and refuge from the less open-minded.


Everything in life in not ‘right or wrong’, ‘left or right’, or ‘black and white’. There is a spectrum... For everything..An umbrella in which everyone falls under..somewhere in between...some of us closer to the strict and conservative beliefs and others require more room to experiment. This is dependent on our own personal life experiences.


As a mother, a teacher, and a busy ass person who has 2 jobs. I’m also trying my damn hardest to meet the always growing and ever changing “needs” of my culture. The. Stress. Is. Real.


I feel much more “subby” when I feel that my own control in my life is questioned, tested or compromised.


I was listening to a podcast earlier today that brought up the topic of control and adult relationships. It brought up an interesting point that the root of insecurity and the ability to initiate and maintain relationships as adults (romantic, friendships, professional, etc.) root in the ability to control others and ourselves. If there is a lack of control in some aspect of our lives we will attempt to make up for that in another area of our life.


I find myself feeling subby as fuck when I feel that my level and ability to control other aspects of life are not working up to my own standards.


I’m using this blog as an outlet to admit my own personal flaws, wondering if any subs relate and just plain curiosity.

11 months ago. Oct 31, 2019, 10:41 PM


1 year ago. Oct 17, 2019, 6:21 AM









...most important...

A dominant’s hunger 



Mindfully add ingredients, stir-

but take your time and with effort...


end result: a mouth watering treat 😍












1 year ago. Oct 13, 2019, 4:22 AM

Prepping for the Full Hunter’s Moon tomorrow..

1 year ago. Oct 10, 2019, 3:54 AM

Finding a suitable connection in D/s has to be one of the most difficult types of human connection to find!


thinking of friendship connections: you connect over things you have in common, humor, interests.


family connections: made at birth (if you’re a parent), connections with your siblings and parents can be more difficult but there is the underlying bond created through shared memories and experiences.


work connections: if you are a professional, you connect through discussions of your career, common goals or venting over the bad parts of the work day.


D/s connections: This is the most intense a deep connection I have personally experienced. And it’s so difficult to find! For me, I need to find someone to stimulate me intellectually, make me laugh, make me feel safe and secure, and cum..hard. And the list goes on and on...


Dom’s and Subs currently in relationships: how did you find each other? Was the connection immediate or did it take time to build and nurture? I love hearing positive stories about this type of relationship! 

1 year ago. Oct 5, 2019, 5:12 AM


so I know summer’s been over for a few weeks. Weather here has been hot and dry and the feel of summer has lingered so much longer than I can remember it doing. Today I woke up to a cool breeze, the crisp new air has been a reminder of a new beginning each time I was able to be outside. 


I love the change of seasons - especially summer to fall. I always feel a new awakening in the autumn months. The upcoming holidays (Halloween -favorite! Thanksgiving, then Christmas). Good things are on the horizon!



1 year ago. Aug 16, 2019, 3:23 AM

Virgo horoscope from the 1970’s is spot on

ha ha ha

1 year ago. Jul 23, 2019, 11:50 PM

SO happy to go to this concert tonight 💕💕💕



1 year ago. Jul 22, 2019, 3:05 PM

what happens when the person you have recently began seeing goes out of town to enter into an Ernest Hemingway look-a-like contest (lol) and hardly messages you the entire week. 

What happens when his brother runs a social media page and takes a video of him in action hitting on women at the bar.


ha ha ha. Life. Dating in 2019. There is no label for our relationship but DANG. 

1 year ago. Jul 18, 2019, 8:40 AM

empaths are the people who were placed here on earth to break the cycle of whatever brokenness you have endured. A bully perpetuates the abuse. An empath paves the new road. Let your sensitivity guide you to the path you wish you were given and lead others in that direction.