The spectrum of submission
As a woman who recognizes myself as a sexual submissive, I have learned and realized that my submission fluctuates.
This may frustrate, annoy and make “strict” Dominants and ‘conservative’submissives roll eyes.
While reading my post, please remember BDSM is a sexual minority group; a group that is already met with misunderstanding and judgement. It is contradicting to judge one another when we’ve come here for an outlet and refuge from the less open-minded.
Everything in life in not ‘right or wrong’, ‘left or right’, or ‘black and white’. There is a spectrum... For everything..An umbrella in which everyone falls under..somewhere in between...some of us closer to the strict and conservative beliefs and others require more room to experiment. This is dependent on our own personal life experiences.
As a mother, a teacher, and a busy ass person who has 2 jobs. I’m also trying my damn hardest to meet the always growing and ever changing “needs” of my culture. The. Stress. Is. Real.
I feel much more “subby” when I feel that my own control in my life is questioned, tested or compromised.
I was listening to a podcast earlier today that brought up the topic of control and adult relationships. It brought up an interesting point that the root of insecurity and the ability to initiate and maintain relationships as adults (romantic, friendships, professional, etc.) root in the ability to control others and ourselves. If there is a lack of control in some aspect of our lives we will attempt to make up for that in another area of our life.
I find myself feeling subby as fuck when I feel that my level and ability to control other aspects of life are not working up to my own standards.
I’m using this blog as an outlet to admit my own personal flaws, wondering if any subs relate and just plain curiosity.