empaths are the people who were placed here on earth to break the cycle of whatever brokenness you have endured. A bully perpetuates the abuse. An empath paves the new road. Let your sensitivity guide you to the path you wish you were given and lead others in that direction.
There are many things about me that have always made me feel different. I have never fit exactly into one group, clique or crowd of people. I can still remember the first day of junior high school..lunch period..which table would I sit at? Obviously seems small now, but it sticks out in my memory because it is a significant part of life, the ability to conform. I remember talking with my good friend that year and pre-planning that we would be “drifters” going from lunch table to table. Ha. I have always been able to get along and be liked by all but never genuinely fit in with one.
it wasn’t that I was “defiant” to conforming or that I wanted to be offbeat, or eclectic or make a statement. I really just don’t conform.
I don’t have one specific genre of music I enjoy, I’ve never followed a denomination of Christianity, or religion. Even politics..I tend to look at the bigger picture.. We all come to our opinions or conclusions based on upbringing or experiences or nature AND nurture and the list goes on.
There are things that energize me in life; meeting people with different perspectives, listening to people who have such great self confidence that they really just don’t care what others think, spontaneity, being around others who remind me of my youth.
And there are things that suck the life out of me; closed-mindedness, quick judgement, the suffocating feeling that I must fit into a box that I was in no way shape or form meant to be in.
Hello Sexy, Beautiful, and Helpful Sluts, Daddy’s, and ________ (insert your kinky name of choice here)...
In my last post I was calling out to you all for some help regarding starting a conversation about kink and Bdsm with men in the vanilla world of whom I am interested in dating.
So, lucky me, I found a relatively normal seeming human on one of those apps. 👍🏻...and we are meeting tonight 😯..
allow me to back track slightly, I want to say THANK YOU to the people who reached out and posted responses and advice/suggestions for how to address the topic of kink with someone new. I listened and valued all responses. The ideas that worked best for my personality were to send a private message to the person and explain briefly that I’m interested and also have a strong attraction to a Dominant and Submissive style of relationship, myself being the submissive...I asked him if he was familiar with this type of relationship.
His response, no....he is NOT familiar...but YES he is open to trying it with me. 🎉🎉
I’m considering this response a huge success as I would have NEVER put myself out on this limb prior to joining this site OR hearing suggestions from people here!
Now that we are meeting up, I am getting anxious! I really don’t want to leave anything off the table because I feel like the longer you wait to talk about what you like the more awkward it becomes. But I also really don’t want him to think I’m some kind of sexual deviant or something.
Also how does a newbie sub “train” a vanilla-ish man to become a Daddy Dom...hmmm..? Any of you out there help led your Significant other to the world of D/s?
I want him to know I’m serious about this, but also that there are times to laugh about what is being done or what is happening. I want to sound strong in my interests, but some of them I’m not even sure of yet. He says that he’s open to explore all of this with me, so maybe take an approach where we are learning and experimenting together?
thoughts??
👋Thoughts, suggestions, past experiences welcomed here please 🙂🙂
As I have crossed into the dark side (vanilla dating apps 😯)..I am beginning to think about when and how to appropriately discuss my enjoyment of D/s and Bdsm. In my last vanilla relationship (7 years long). I never built the courage to address my needs in that area. I never felt fulfilled sexually and ultimately the lack of pleasure in that part of our relationship was a huge role in our decision to separate.
For future relationships, how do I bring this up and when?! This thought alone is giving me anxiety. I feel it’s probably best to acknowledge this prior to any sexual interaction. How do you address it without making things awkward? Or killing the mood. I don’t mean to come off as immature but I honestly don’t know where to begin here!
thoughts?!!????
I have more time away from work in the summer
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so, I’ve been enjoying sitting on my porch in the evenings, listening to music, occasionally having friends over and just enjoying being around my plants (I’m an earth sign, Virgo) so my plants to me are like extensions of my family 🙂🤷♀️..
I’d like you to meet the newest addition to my nightly porch hang
The sweet bird comes to stay every evening on my porch post. I think it’s a sparrow. Which is cool because initially when I was deciding a “nick” for the cage, I was debating between my current nick and “sparrow”. 🙂
sparrows symbolize joy and protection which are two main objectives I value in the my own personal journey of opening up and allowing myself more sexual freedom and experience.
obviously, this bird has a nest close by, but it is not on the post or in the gutter (I looked earlier today when the post was vacant). So, I’m wondering where the nest is?
Also this sweet little babe is quite protective, I have had a few friends over and each time they come to the porch it swoops down and freaks them out 😂😂😂
here I am now, sitting with a glass of red, porch hanging with my new house guest and just enjoying the small signs that the universe can give us, as sweet reminders that we are in fact on the right path 🙂😊
...I just discovered what bond is haha. To anyone whose sent me a message on there, promise I wasn’t ignoring ya 😜
I’ve been in a mood for blogging these past few days. I would like to hear opinions from subs and Doms since I consider myself a novice to this lifestyle. (I’ve had real life experiences, several years ago) but didn’t know there was a title and lifestyle etc, etc. until about a year ago.
my first and only online Dom experience started when I first joined this site. The relationship started quickly and from my novice perspective, it was great. I knew nothing would ever surface from it, as we led very different, very busy lives. But steady contact for about 6 months. I expressed the need for more communication. I won’t give specifics, but I wanted what I consider simple details. As I gave more of myself sexually, which we all know is more than that in a D/s dynamic. I allowed myself to feel vulnerable, open, very trusting of the relationship.
I was never, ever given anything, small details I wanted to know, in return. After a night out with a few friends and a few 🍻 I typed the words “fuck you”( obviously I woke up realizing this was out of order). And I haven’t heard back from him since. Of course I apologized as it was out of line and not my character. Considering this was my very first experience with this and he dubbed himself my “mentor” in the beginning, I felt bad and there was no sense of closure. Turning me off to the lifestyle in general as it is already tough to find a match.
thoughts?
I was 20. He, a lot older. I’ve always liked that. Man of few words. The silent but strong type. Successful in a flashy world..humility and a genuine demeanor. Coulda had anyone, chose me. I went home with him that night. He asked, “are you dominant or submissive?” *in my head: I don’t know?*
“submissive”...
yes, definitely Submissive. With a capital ‘S’.
Ropes, clothespins, toys, permissions to be given and earned.
Our sex life, stories to be told to my friends eager ears.
A corruption and enlightenment tangled and twisted into a 3 year show of Submission and Dominance. I would never be the same.
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