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It's my opinion that most want to decide whether online or face to face is right for them.. . .

I think it is a false choice they are trying to make.  Let's consider our favorite singer. . . . would you prefer to see in an actual concert, or perhaps listen to a recording?   Since millions do both, why not realize there is pleasure in both.

We watch movies and enjoy. . . and think about the actress in a stage play. . . written and directed by others. . . she enjoys performing and her audience enjoys watching. . .

Then there are the many great athletes that in time have to stop the actual play and continue to enjoy their sport as they coach.

So, by all means enjoy a face to face BDSM encounter. . . we can agree they bring a special joy and pleasure. . . 

I want you to think, however, that you can have considerable pleasures in online activity as well. . . stimulation can be very real. . . restraint can take place. . . yes locking in a cage for some length is possible with online instructions using an ice lock. . .

Creative, innovative, erotic instructions can produce those moments you wish for. . . .

Be greedy, don't decide which is for you. . . .don't make your choice "which one" but rather "both".

To prove the validity of thought in the Title, I checked my Rule Book. . . oh wait, I don't have one, in fact nobody has one. . .by choice or maybe it's simply genes, everybody simply has different cravings and needs. . . wanting to serve and offer submission, or wanting to guide and control, doesn't make you inferior or superior. . . just makes you have different cravings.

As much as the Dominant wishes to be pleased by his submissive. . . so should he in fact think of how best for his submissive to be pleased. . .

Its a partnership. . . and pleasure needs to be developed for both partners day after day after day. .

I suspect there are many who approach BDSM and D/s with different views. . . and their opinion is what is best for them. . and mine is best for Houstongentleman7@gmail.com

In my experience, there are many "toys" or "equipment" that are obtained at very reasonable cost. . . clothespins at walmart and rope and chain at Lowe's or Home Depot. . . but for more sophisticated items like "Anal Hooks", or "handcuffs" and many other such items. . .I've found EBAY to be far and away the most reasonable. . .

With patience. . I've purchased from China, Singapor and had pretty good results.. . though it does take as much as 6 weeks for delivery.. . 

Do a search without joining. . . very simple www.ebay.com . . 

Often, we'll se discussions about the differences between sub and slave. . . or how a Dominant should treat his submissive.. . should a submissive be punished when the Dominant is angry. . . and on and on and on. . . 

Always, the response to such questions are the opinion of the responder. . . or perhaps they are quoting a book or article they've read. . . always written expressing the opinions of the author. . . 

My position is the truly most important "Opinion" is your own. . . 

We should never have to measure up to somebody else's opinion, rather understand for ourselves our needs and pleasures. . . how best we can see them achieved.

It was my thought some time ago that I was interested in BDSM because of a "throwback" gene . . . back to cave man days. . . the male hunter would return from a day gathering food. . . he'd grab his mate and head to the cave. . . and. . .well we all know what went on in those caves.

This Gene would be like the one that is for left-handedness, or red hair, or to a lesser extent blue eyes.

Then, someone suggested a different theory to me. . . that, everyone was interested, but most supressed that interest and their desires. . . . any other ideas. . .??