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In growing restless and am unsatisfied . I was a very sexual person with my exe. I did get him into some kink but he just wasn't into my needs like I was. So it was a softer submission.
Yet he was the best I've ever had. Our bodies fit perfectly. I left him just about 10 years ago and felt No one could compare to what he had and what we had everyday so I gave up sex for just about 10 years. It was not easy but I didn't want indulging sex and I don't like huge packages but I do prefer at least 7.5" -9.5" and vanilla sex is okay at times but really I enjoy being tied up and teased and had for hours.
Another thing is men seem to think all women are really into receiving oral sex. While I enjoy it, in all honesty it's never gotten me off. I'm more into fingers n toys. Men are the ones who extremely love oral sex on them and so they don't understand women can be different. Are different.
Well I ended my celibency 6 weeks ago and now I wish I hadn't because now I'm thinking of being filled n played with all day and night.
My dilemma is I don't know how much of a sub Im ready to be. I love nipple suction and breast roping and being cuffed up where I'm at the mercy of my partner. But I've never just met a Dom because I'm a woman who needs to feel chemistry and attraction to the person I'm about to become intimate with. I want to be handled roughly and used for hours but I can't just trust anyone. And there are limits.
Many are into anal sex and many seem to just want to shove it in. Well for me a small butt plug is uncomfortable. If I met the right person and they could be patient I'd probably with slow training and stretching agree to anal. But do I really want anal sex. ? This is an inner conflict within myself. I've fantasized for decades about it and masturbate to it. But in all honesty someone would have to fulfill my needs which require a lot of breast play and fingering and straight up entering me over and over. Foreplay is so important to me.
I also like to give and I like to tease my men too and sometimes tie them up while I lick and suck them all over.
I also don't want cyber sex or talk My mind is it's own cyber world.
My fantasies are so various....from wanting 2 men too dominate me but then there's that anal part......to having a man Just tie me up top and crotch tie me and apply the breast suction machine and then after the intense nipple suction machine while being stretched down below with my man's fingers and toys, ice and red hots. While having my wrist restrained and possibly even using a leg spreader.
What I'm getting is men wanting to just dominate me or make me a slave.
I know Im not into being a complete slave but habe had fantasies about my partner making me a slave for a whole weekend. Where I'm cuffed and naked and habe all kinds of things done to me as I'm powerless.
Is it really to much to ask for a partner in my everyday that says hello and we chat and then on my available weekends and a day or 2 a week have my partner be my caveman but understand while my body is his completely that there needs to be an understanding to limits and I'm not just a fuck doll ?
I'm in Michigan metro Detroit area and I don't know how to even find people like me. My last 3 partners I trained to do what I needed.
Ugh it's so complicated now
Size to me is important
Chemistry is important
Looks are important
Ownership is wanted in the sex department but not throughout our everyday.
I'm me. With particular needs and yes I will give my partner what he desires and more.
But am I truly a sub ? Our am I somewhere inbetween ?
I just wish There was an easy way to find out size, demeanor, and if a man can be what I need.

If you wish to find me it's simple
Debbie Romancheck

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5 years ago. November 22, 2018 at 11:06 AM

Keep getting messages from men mentioning they want to take me out and have me wear harnessed bras with magnetic orbs on my nipples making them hard and then wanting me to wear sheer like tops and sexy skirts and heels to go outside to show me off.

 

Okay I'm game. But these items are being bought by your wallet not mine.

Maybe I've been spoiled all my life. But it's what I expect as honestly while I am somewhat voyeuristic it's not to the degree that some of these men are wanting. 

I'm large chested I have revealed cleavage before as I'm proud of my twins but I've never had my nipples hardened with magnetic orbs and then walked around without a full bra on out on public in sheer like tops and dresses.

 

But yes if I find my right partner I'll dress to make him happy but he's paying to dress me up in what he wants

Same goes for New toys such as a womans harness. I'll wear them but you're buying it.

Want to fill me More n more as we go and you stretch me then you buy those larger items

I will buy you surprises too but all in all. You want to be Master than a master takes care of his sub lover. 

Doesn't all have to be at once as some toys are more expensive than others. But slowly we build our own playtime kit together.

I guess I'm old fashioned .

But hey you want you buy. And you say I'm to obey within limits then you're acting as my owner .

I own My dog. I buy his food, his toys, his beds, his treats and I play with him with his toys and walk him and keep him warm in clothing in the winter as he's only 13 lbs

 

No one's milking me and getting the milk for free. 

But if my partner mentions a new interest I too will go out and buy that item and surprise Him with it.

If I want him to wear a specific type of shirt or pants then that's on me too.

 

A partnership is about fairness. But being as doms will go on and on and insist on pushing your limits then the green fromtheir wallets is buying his newest wish to use on me.

 

Just my opinion. 

5 years ago. November 21, 2018 at 7:57 AM

So I get excited I get an email that was very detailed and Great he lives in Metro Detroit Area!  Then I checked this Doms profile it stated 15-20 yrs on/ off knowledge. 

Now my profile is very specific to what I want and like. I'm considered a sub but I don't require training as I'm not looking to be degraded. Anyways I gave my text # out and we begin to talk.

I ask do you take your sub out ? Now my profile states specifically in looking for a partnership not lessons. 

He responds no I'm on a fixed income maybe I could in a month...at this point my mind is already at No.

 But I hate to be rude so I ask what he is into  and he asks me. I mention that I'm very much into nipple suctioning machine

( stated in my profile) talking continues and then, I was just completely caught off guard when he said if we did meet for a lesson that I would need to bring all my toys and ropes and whatever else I have.

Seriously ?!? Wow just blew my mind !!!!

So I ask if you've been a Dom throughout all these years where are your toys ?

He didn't really answer but astounded me even further by stating he was sure he could scrounge out some HOUSEHOLD ITEMS to aid in my lesson 

Ugh I don't need lessons !

I'm not looking for torture either !

I'm looking for pleasure with a partner who can at least own a few toys and take me out as a partner. 

 

Really rope isn't even expensive and clothespins aren't really anything to me.

 

All's I could think of was banquet microwave meals and the scene with the whisk from the movie AN OFFICER AND A GENTLEMEN

 

I'm not a gold digger but I do expect to be treated out to a nice meal, cocktails every now and then, spending quality time together as we grow mind, body and soul.

 

I'm seriously still laughing over bring your own toys n rope !!!

 

PASS !