Greetings, stay awhile and listen. In honor on Mental Health Awareness Month along with my love of Disturbed, here is something to listen to.
Remember, no one is completely alone in the world. As always stay safe and stay happy.
Greetings, stay awhile and Listen.
It has been awhile since I was last online on this site, this was due to work and building the foundation with my new kitten. I do not want people to think I have forgotten about my pledge to keep "Preaching to the masses" so to speak about different things I see. I also need a forum as an outlet to express my thoughts and ideas. Before we go any further, yes my kitten knows about my thoughts and idea's in my head. Which brings me to the lesson for the day if you will.
A D/s relationship is built on trust as I have covered previously but it is also built on the understanding of both people in the relationship. This is where a few of my fellow males and females get confused. Being a Master, Dom, Alpha, whatever else you choose as your title does not give you free reign to do as you please. It allows you to voice idea's, thoughts, scenes, and so on for your partner to think on and choose. Here is where the rub happens in my opinion, when your partner says they are not ready, then you push or force your idea's on them,
This is not how a healthy relationship works. Both parties have a right and duty to each other to say no I am not comfortable with that. One of my discomforts is physical play when it comes to other area's of the body besides the backside or other fleshy parts. My kitten understands this and does not push those situations on me. Side note, if you think your sub does not push idea's into your head then you shouldn't call yourself a Master or any of the other previously listed titles. Your sub's know what they like and don't like, they can tell you what brings them pleasure and what doesn't.
My kitten is currently exploring her likes and dislikes which I enjoy helping her. She is currently enjoying her bratty side that I entertain which she hasn't had before. I employ everyone that is a part of our community to explore and discover what brings you pleasure over what you do to please others. I would never have known I enjoyed a bratty sub if I didn't allow her to find her pleasures.
Slight update, I will not be able to post as much as I would like in the future. I am going to try and keep a once a week schedule if nothing else random thoughts put down. There needs to be more time in the day for everything I want to do but alas that is not the case.
As always, thank you to everyone that reads my words even if you don't agree with them. Stay Safe and Stay Happy my friends.
Hello there, come stay awhile and listen.
Fate has a funny way of playing with intentions it seems. After I posted my intended blogging schedule, work picked up with people calling out and going on vacations so limited time there. I also am proud to announce that I have found my sub after 3 weeks of playing together. This past Tuesday was the official start of our journey together.
This will limit my time to update my blogs which will more than likely be weekends now but I will still try to keep this blog going of random thoughts and educational opinions.
I want to thank everyone who supported my blogs again, I know I reached out to you to personally thank you. Without your support and views, I would have never pushed myself to continue evolving as a person.
I hope anyone and every reading this blog has found their other half and encourage those who haven't yet to not give up hope. My other half is someone I grew up with so I know there is someone out there that will complete everyone. As always stay safe and happy hunting.
Greeting, stay awhile and listen. Also, bonus points to anyone that knows what the first line is from.
Hello world, today I want to share my random thoughts on music. There are many different types of music such as country, rock, metal, pop, rap, jazz, techno, club, and so on. Music is one of the ways I express myself when words fail me. I know contrary to popular opinion, my silver tongue does fail from time to time. So when that happens I use songs that have a meaning behind them to express what I cannot give justice too. My taste is music ranges from Rammstein to Yanni which is weird when they play back to back on my playlist. I try and go for the more upbeat songs that makes me want to get up and do something or songs that have deeper meanings behind them about things I am not ready to talk about.
So, why bring up music some may be asking, and the answer is simple. Music helps all over us in its own way. Remembers childhood fun times when you find that song from your youth. Giving you energy when a good hard song comes on, or helping you grieve quietly when the sad melody plays. Everyone has that one song that can either make their day great no matter what or that song that makes you remember someone who isn't around anymore. Music is a good outlet for any Dom or sub that feels like they cannot express themselves how they want to. Well that is just my humble opinion on it anyways and I could be wrong who knows. I will leave you with a song that currently has my attention and I listen to daily:
As always stay safe and have fun with life, you only get 1 shot at it from what I hear lol.
Greetings, stay awhile and listen. This is one of the new style I am trying out. A daily blog of random thoughts, feelings, events of the day, and anything that comes to mind. Going to see how this works out and if this outlet will help me purge some negative feelings so I can grow and evolve. So here goes something:
Recently, I experienced something I haven't since my days in the Army, a panic attack to include the tears, racing heartbeat, cold sweat, and blurred vision. Oh and this started while I was driving 80 mph through Tennessee on the way to a job interview. Yeah, fun place to have that I know. Thank god there was a rest area 1 mile from the starting point so I was able to pull off the road before hurting myself or someone else. The cause of this was the fear of leaving a place I knew my whole life for someplace I did not know very well. I ended up turning around and coming back home feeling defeated, weak, and hurt that I couldn't keep my word to the people that offered me this new job. After taking two days to reflect and well frankly calm down, I realized something, I didn't have a panic attack over changing jobs or even driving 17 hours one way to the interview. I had the attack because I couldn't let go. If you have seen my previous post with the music video, it will start to make sense why I chose that song now.
Letting go of your comfort zone is the hardest thing for anyone to do. Letting someone into your comfort zone is equally hard to do. I was trying to do all that at once without reassurances. And as I sit here trying to find the words to put to this screen, I now understand that I was wrong by turning around and running away from my fear. I allowed weakness to overcome something I was all for as a younger person. I am a drifter, wanderer by nature. I joined the Army to see the world but only saw GA and sand. I allowed the rules of society to hold me back and keep me in the place I was born instead of taking the risk to see a different view. For that, I want to apologize to anyone and everyone that has read my previous blogs. Some of you will say that I do not need to apologize and some will accept it, but this is something I must do.
So where do I go from here and the answer is quite simple. The interview has been rescheduled and I have steeled my resolve. Good, bad or indifferent this is the moment of change. This is the tipping point that I need to set out to learn more. I do not know everything nor will I claim to be great. I can only evolve and keep learning every day as they come. This is the message I want to put out there, do allow fear to hold you back. You might fail but without knowing you have already lost. I know my original reason for the move were not the right reasons and I am OK with that now. Those reasons are still a driving force behind me wanting to move but now I have a new purpose. I need to conquer this fear, just like I did the first time sky diving, mountain climbing, surfing, and snowboarding.
So this is my open letter to anyone and everyone that recent events showed me that I lost a part of me by growing older. The part of me that was fearless against the unknown. Unflinching in the face of the uncertain. That part of me has returned. I was born and raised a hunter. I lost those instincts till now. I am excited for the thrill of adventure, the adrenaline of exploration. It is time I start taking my advice and start living my life. I take what I want and claim what is mine(happiness in myself). I am a southern gentleman but also a southern redneck. An Army grunt but a compassionate human being. This is my vow to myself to never forget who I am and never allow moments slip away. I may not have the perfect life but it will be filled with people that want to stand by my side. People who will give everything to me as I give everything to them(do not mean sexual in case your wondering).
First step of solving a problem is admitting there is a problem. I had a problem with anxiety now I have a thirst for the horizon.
Thank you everyone who made it this far in the blog. I know I jumped around a bit and might have rambled on in places. These daily blogs will be like this. Just random thoughts given form. I will be posting educational blogs once a week from here on out. I will try to post music video blogs twice to three times a week as music is the form of expression I am comfortable with. Not sure the timetable on this daily blogs as I lead a time consuming life but I will do my best to post them daily. As always thank you for the support, everyone is awesome and it feels good to be back in the community. Stay safe and stay happy.
Doing something new for my blog today, here is a song. Cheers.
Sorry for the sort blog, I am in the process of trying something new with my blogs. I want to keep the weekly instructional blog and might add different types of blogs. Thank you to everyone that commented and liked my blogs up to now. You all have been a great help in helping me find my voice to help people again. As always, stay safe.
Stay awhile and listen, today I want to talk about trust. This is the foundation of our lifestyle. The core principle everyone should model their relationships around. Trust, the easiest thing in the world to break and the hardest thing to obtain.
In any relationship but especially D/s relationships, trust is vital. A sub must be able to trust her Dom with her fears, safety, emotions, body, mind, and soul. A Dom must be able to trust his sub with the same things. The basic way to build trust is by keeping your word. Words are nothing more than wind at the right vibrations to show a picture. Words have little meaning unless actions back them up. Actions will show your sub your true intentions and emotions.
So, how do you deal with trust issues you might ask? Simple, watch someones actions and you will know their intent. Their are a section of males that will not like this next part but frankly, your part of the problem. If a male (They are not fit to be called Dom's, Alpha's, Daddy's or any variation of nor fit to have names) wants physical gratification but tells you he cares then he does not. Physical gratification is the last step of our relationships. Nudes and hook-ups are asked for up front. Now allow me to clarify, I am not saying explicit photos and physical gratification should not be sent/given. I am just saying that a true D/s relationship does not start with them. A first point of attack of any true Dom or Alpha is the mind. If you cannot intrigue your sub to have a conversation then you do not deserve her body or soul.
Now Kalten, we know this so why are you having to explain this? Simple, to many subs are falling for tricks that males have been playing. How do I know, simple really it was the same tricks I did when I was younger to keep a female around for sex. I know the word love is thrown around a lot by boys to get what they want or keep what they want till they find something else. Love should not be given or earned after you have seen a naked body. Love is earned by actions and love is shown to the world not kept a secret.
But Kalten, my Dom, Master, Alpha is different and to that I say, I hope so. Sadly, that is not the case for the Majority of the Males I find on these sites. I preach and practice that trust must be earned everyday not once. Actions speak loudly while words mean nothing. Deeds build trust or breaks its. Fun fact: saying your sorry and changing for a short period of time hurts the other person more than you will ever know.
This lifestyle creates such tight bonds between people which is beautiful. I do employ people to build trust and not shutdown. I want my fellow Dom's to step up and practice this daily. I want my submissive community to know the signs so they don't fall into dead end relationships. Take a leap and also know that roadblocks will happen. If the trust is there then you will be able to work through them together as a team. Trust can be broken and rebuilt stronger if both people are willing to work on it. This is the main lesson I want to teach people. Don't go out there thinking you can't trust anyone because of previous relationships. You are the only one in this world that can say whether deserves another shot. Just don't fall into the cycle of giving chances to people when their actions will continue to show you wrong.
I think I've rambled long enough and I know the people who read this blog are not the ones I am aiming for. I want my blog to spread across this website so please invite your friends to read. If you have any topics that you want to know my opinion on then please feel free to leave a comment. I want to start showing the newbie's and the broken that there are still decent people in our community. People who will help those lost souls and guide them safely as they explore their own personalities and kinks.
As always, stay safe and thank you for reading.
Just a quick blog as I stated earlier. I hope everyone had a safe and fun Memorial day. Remember that not all of those we honored today wore a uniform or left us through combat. Remember to reach out and talk with friends and family members for regular check-ins. If you are feelings alone then reach out to someone you trust. If you don't have anyone like that then reach out to me and we can talk. No one should feel alone in the world and lets give Memorial day back to honoring those men and women that served in combat with honor. As always stay safe and happy hunting.
P.S: These views are a reflecting of me and me alone. My statements are not mad to inflame or upset anyone nor does The Cage endorse my blog. If you feel I have upset you then please private message me and we can discuss this like adults. Thank you.
I feel a strong urge to write this after a few conversation I had with my sub recently. So, its time for another installment of my blog. Stay awhile and listen.
The art of conversation seems to be a lost art in recent years. I have seen this on both sides, from "Dom's" and "Sub's". This lifestyle we have all chosen or been called to is built on trust and understanding. If there is no trust then there can be nothing more than physical pleasure. Any true Dom or Alpha male knows that physical pleasure is only a small piece of what we seek. Personally, physical pleasure is the last one the list because it is the easiest to be taught to any sub. Mental and Emotional domination are the hardest to obtain, easiest to destroy, but the most rewarding when given completely.
Now you may be asking, "Kalten we know this but how does that have anything to do with the art of conversation?" Well my good friends, here is how. If I don't know trivial things such as favorite foods or color then how can anyone give me the deeper guarded secrets of fear and hope? Anyone who is looking for a long lasting relationship will know that starting a conversation about life will lead to more then asking if a sub wants you to dominate them. How do I know this you might ask and quite frankly I did the same thing starting out. This isn't from a hallmark card but personal experience. Holding a conversation is the hardest part of any relationship or friendship.
A few tips for my fellow brothers and sisters that will help them in their quest to find eternal happiness:
If you are truly looking for lasting paradise with a sub by your side then you need to remember they are human just like you. Treat them as such and get to know them flaws and all. If you are looking for just hook-ups, the local bar or club will be a better place then here. Now obviously this blog does not pertain to in the most part to those looking for online relationships. Use your head and that doesn't mean the one between your legs. If you do this then your chances of finding the right person to complete you will increase.
How do I know you might ask? Well that is simple, I found my sub and we started talking about history in the beginning. Now if we don't talk it feels like part of me is missing and I will move heaven and earth to make sure that never happens again.
Hope everyone who reads this learns something from it or reaffirms your own thoughts. I will be posting a special blog tomorrow in honor of Memorial day here in the United States. As an Army Veteran, its one of the few days a year that has deep meaning for me.
Till next time, stay safe and happy hunting.
Stay awhile and listen if you wish for this blog will be the first of many. I will try to keep adding to my blog at least once a week. Few things that must be stated first, these are my thoughts, opinions, and beliefs. I do not wish change anyone's opinions or beliefs with my words. If you have questions then please feel free to leave them in the comments and I will do my best to respond.
My previous entry gave an overview of my start and mindset. This entry will go deeper into my fears. These emotions play a part in everyone's lives whether you are a Dom or Sub. So what better way to learn then to let an Alpha pull back the curtain's slightly.
Fear, the driving force on what stops everyone from trying new things. Fear grips me even now as I write this since rejection and angry have followed my words. Fear will drive away something that is beautiful and wonderful. No matter how you rationalize it. "I want them to be happy. It was not meant to be." These are the words we tell ourselves or others as a way to hide behind the walls we create. My fear is of change, fear of happiness which is comical when I type it out. I fear the happiness because I have held on to the idea that people don't like me for a long time in my life. What will happen when I finally give that up? Will I be the same person? To say that I have no fear because I am an Alpha is a lie. Fear lives in everyone. Fear can consume you as it has done to me for the past 7 years of my life. I am an introvert who only interacts with people when I have to. The friends I have talked with on here have helped me come out of my shell slightly but I still hold on to that fear of self worth.
Now you might be asking, how can someone claiming to be a Dom have fear? Doesn't that contradict the definition of being a Dominate Male? The answer is no because rule 1: Dom's do not have the power in a true D/s relationship. (another topic that will be covered in later blogs). We are chosen by our submissive partners and protect at their pleasure. This creates fear because we may be set aside for someone else whether due to location or other factors. A Dominate person who say's they live without fear is deluding themselves or lying. We all have fear brother's and sister's. It is up to us on how we handle it and protect those who entrusted us to protect.
Fear is a complex emotion that I have not done justice in my explanation. I have touched on my fears even recent one's of change. My goal is to find that person who lets me live without fear and knows it will be a long journey with me. I am not perfect by any means nor will I ever claim it. I admit I am afraid of the unknown but I am willing take the step with her by my side forever if she will have me.
I hope this has helped some people open up to their partners about the fear they have so that both of you can work towards a better future. If I have helped just 1 person then I will continue to write. Thank you for reading this far and more will follow in the future.
Stay safe.