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Finding Control in Giving it Away

BDSM was the key that helped me find strength and learn to trust in the darkness following abuse. I've spent years looking for a safe place to share my story to an understanding audience and I hope to have found that here.
5 years ago. December 12, 2018 at 3:34 PM

I fell asleep next to a train.

At least that's what it seemed like. My husband lay there next to me snoring louder than I thought possible, but I couldn't be mad. I couldn't even be irritated.

There was a time when the man who slept next to me was silent. However I never slept. Not after he pulled me out of bed by my hair and pinned me against the wall by my neck. As I blacked out, all I could hear was him asking who was texting me in the middle of the night. I couldn't tell him it was my cousin. I couldn't tell him to stop.

He dropped me just before I lost consciousness and he went back to sleep. I sat on the floor crying until the sun came up. This wasn't the first or last time he hurt me. It certainly wasn't the worst.

I couldn't sleep with him after that, but I couldn't sleep alone. Sleep meant vulnerability, so I learned to function on practically no sleep for years.

Then one day, I found safety and comfort in the man I eventually married. I didn't even know him. We had just met and were hanging out with friends, but something about him brought me peace. I fell asleep in his arms on a couch and stayed that way all night. I didn't know at the time that he was my Dom. I didn't know at the time that he was my Protector. Hell, I didn't even know I needed one. All I knew was he was different.

Last night I slept next to a train, and it was the most peaceful sleep I've ever gotten.

5 years ago. December 12, 2018 at 3:48 AM

Hello!

For many years I've wanted to share my story about how BDSM helped me find strength and trust when I had thought both were long gone. I am hoping this community will be a good place for me to do so. I'll make my first real post tomorrow and truly hope someone is interested in reading how drastically BDSM changed my life.

For now though, good night loves ❤