Eli

When you're dating you find yourself talking to multiple people at the same time, then it's time to narrow it down and you do it little by little till you get a guy you actually like.

If you're lucky, that guy will be the one for you but if you're not then you'll have to go back and do the whole process again which can be fun, difficult, frustating and eye opening for you. 

I was having fun, but then things started getting frustating and that's when I knew I needed a break.  I enjoy being single the same way I enjoy being in a relationship, but sometimes we need a break from the madness of the dating world.

Right now I need time for myself, to have fun without any guy on my mind, no drama, no thinking about "oh he's not responding", etc. What helps me is traveling and I'm waiting for good news next week to see if I can do it or not, but even if that doesn't happen I still will take a break.

My point isssss, it's ok to take a break when you're looking for a connection with someone cause they tend to happen when you least expect them, so good luck to ya'll

Do you guys have a instant turn off when meeting someone?

Mine is dating a person with no sense of humor!

I can't say it was a date, but I met a guy once who would say so many negative things about pretty much everything, including my country (he was here on vacation), he didn't accept an opinion other than his own and to top things off, I could tell he was an aggressive person which is a big No No for me.

Funny thing is, that night I ended up with a broken heel, chocolate ice cream all over the back of my blue jeans and me running down the street trying to let my Uber know I was right behind him! 

Please tell me I'm not the only one with a weird date night story! 

We really need to be careful when taking an advice from others. 

A friend made me see my relationship with an ex wasn't fake after all while the other said some things that made me doubt everything about what we had.(With this one, my anxiety took the best of me physically, I spent that night feeling sick.)

I have friends who if a guy did a bad thing to me would say "break up with him right away" while others made sure to show me another approach so I could see his point of view. Obviously not everyone deserves a second chance, so we have to decide if what that person did to us was worth breaking things up or not.

At the end of the day, an advice is just an advice and no one better than you knows what goes down in your relationship. 

Do Doms feel less vulnerable than subs? 

Being the one with the "power" in a relationship can make you feel like it's harder to get hurt? 

After all the things I've been through I've found myself running away from a part of me that makes me feel vulnerable. I've been trying to toughen up and let myself wander through other paths the BDSM community has to offer, none related to being a sub.

I know being a sub doesn't mean you're weak, I know better than that, but I also know it let's others see you in your most vulnerable and needy state and people can take advantage of that. 

I thought I was doing great, but I found myself going out of my way for someone who wouldn't do it for me, all because I care about that person and it's hard for me to say no to them. When I was down and needed comfort, I saw myself desperatly trying to connect with the wrong people just to get someone to actually listen. 

This is a work in progress, loving yourself is a work in progress and I know if you show your true self to others, you're stronger than the rest that always choose to build a wall and hide. 

SUBS ARE TOUGH AS HELL! 

I miss our conversations...

I never got bored with you. You knew exactly what to say to turn me on or make me feel safe when I needed protection. You didn't look like the fun type, but you always made me laugh.

Things can be ok, I can meet new people and try to move on, but everytime a man doesn't touch me the right way or doesn't say the right things, I think of you cause everything you did to or for me was perfect. It was like you could read my mind. 

You knew when to be sweet and show me your love, you knew when to be rough and use me for your pleasure. 

Now it all seems fake, they never hit the right spot for me so I wanna know how did you do it? How did you know what I wanted without saying a word? 

You know what's annoying about moving on? Having to start meeting new people again.

Don't get me wrong, meeting people is fun specially when you have tons of things in common, and even moreee fun if they're into the same kinks that you are. The bad part is having to deal with the vetting process. 

Who's here for real? Who's here to play games? Who's a crazy 90 year old online passing for a guy in his 20's? 

Also, being with someone for a while and trusting them enough to show them your insecurities it's great, but when you have to start over dealing with all the emotions and anxiety that it brings showing a new person all of you, body and soul, it's nerve wrecking. 

Everytime I take a step foward I do it with fear. Fear of rejection for being too weird or not being good looking enough, but I can't let it take the best of me cause at the end of the day I know I'm pretty badass, insecurities and all. 

Your heart is broken in so many little pieces, i'm surprised that's even possible.

I wish you knew how to fix it, how to fix things, how to avoid making bad choices, how to avoid mistakes, how to avoid people, how to avoid being heartbroken, how to move on, how to know when to stop trying, how to be happy again, how to spend an entire day without crying everytime something reminds you of a moment, a memory. 

How can you be happy, laughing and checking out sex toys and the next minute be crying yourself to sleep? Is it really that bad? Were you guys really in love? 

Are you too sensitive? Should you become a cold person now? Not talking about it means you're over it? 

Was it real what you guys had or was it a way to pass the time? Did you really loved her? Did you get tired of her? Why didn't you try to fix things? Is she worth it or not? If you knew it was such a huge problem for you since the beggining, why continue?

I wish I could help you, I wish I could heal your broken heart. 

How you deal with your emotions when going through a difficult time?

Do you relay on your dom/partner when things go south? 

Right now there's a very important person in my life going through some serious health issues, and yes, having a partner to be there for you, someone you can talk to who truly cares about your emotions is great, but what happens when you don't have that? 

I know the relationship with our doms is super important, but after my last relashionship I learned I need to make time for everyone, friends included, cause when you give yourself completly to one person you stop taking care of others.

 I used to spend a few days with not a lot of contact with my last dom, cause when he got busy, I felt like he just didn't like me or couldn't bother to spend time with me (my anxiety played a big role in this since it was a long distance relationship) and my way to avoid that was trying to pay less attention to him so I could recover my friendship with others, and to also save what we had cause the way I was acting wasn't healthy and I wanted to change that.

After a few months of not acting the way I normally am, I find myself checking out this site to distract my mind and no more than 5 minutes later see my ex's profile. 

I felt my heart drop to my stomach cause I wasn't expecting it, and because I've been hating myself for opening up and giving so much of me. 

Maybe I'm being selfish and just felt bad cause he's trying to move on while I feel stuck. 

Leaving the pity party behind, I want you all to know I've been trying to move on but no matter how hard I try, I keep believing we still have a chance. Am I an emotional masochist and don't even know it? 

Anyways, you think it was a coincidence or am I just really unlucky?