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15 hours ago. Mon 22 Apr 2019 03:12:31 PM IDT

So, it’s important in any BDSM dynamic to read the air. Especially if you are going to be a dom. 

Any change in consistency, communication, mannerisms, and even something as strange as sleep habits; ask questions.

At times, when situations are platonic and or mutually exclusive of a deeper relationship (example : boyfriend/girlfriend husband/wife) then you need to check up on the person to see if they have caught what others call “feels.” It’s important to note: to feel is to be human, and as such it is almost impossible to be a little robot submissive or a Big Mech Daddy without feeling something for your play partner/ friend. 

Its important that those feelings be discussed, openly, cause if they are not then you are failing on two counts:  communication and honesty. And if those things aren’t in a Bdsm dynamic you lose the biggest thing of them all , trust. 

Both partners should do their best to keep an open mind, but a cautious heart. It is together that the dynamic functions, without one the other is just shouting commands into the open air, while the other is sitting there patiently for instructions that will never come. 

Just remember: if you are causing them to hurt (outside of their desired kink...) you are doing them a deeper injustice than if you were to drop them. 

Good morning, and if I don’t see you the rest of the day : good afternoon, good evening, and good night! 

 

1 day ago. Sun 21 Apr 2019 07:06:33 PM IDT

This’ll be short:

I am religious, I go to church regularly, and by regularly I mean every week. 

I believe in God, and I believe there is a lot of good in the Bible. I do, however, not believe that just going to church makes you a good person.

To cut to the point: Easter Sunday lunch in the church gymnasium, going to get my jacket off of the chair I overhear a lady shout: “I AM WHITE AND GROWN I CAN DO WHAT I WANT THERE IS NO NEED TO TELL ON ME.” This was shouted to a young child, whom I can assume is related or at least kin. 

I mean, holy shit! I get it you might be racist, I get it you might be a piece of shit. But at least keep your racism in check on the lords day. 

This being said: This might explain why most of my teachings and how I treat others are usually wholesome, however don’t let that good christian lad outside fool you folks. There is a lot more to me than that. 

Stay classy, San Diego. 

2 days ago. Sat 20 Apr 2019 05:34:18 PM IDT

So, I got a opportunity with a very green sub. I’m excited to teach her, show her what a real Dom is supposed to act like. 

Its still early and I’m not counting my eggs before they hatch , but it’s been pretty solid so far.

I guess what some others said it wouldn’t take too long, but ya know I’m taking my time. 

On other notes: 

A little tip to those out there struggling with finding opportunities, both sides...let the conversation flow naturally. Consent always must be involved. Look at the words you are typing and THINK about how those words show what your intent is. 

I’ve heard about a lot of subs having issues with “Doms” asking for nudes , stripping, or sexual favors within the first few words. That is a red flag to any kinkster out there if they are serious about the lifestyle. 

Social norms are generally eschewed over text, lots of people gaining false strength due to the anonymity of the whole thing. Let you shine forth as a beacon in this wild pool party of a community, and the opportunities will come flying at ya.

See ya later, Space Cowboy.

3 days ago. Fri 19 Apr 2019 07:09:06 PM IDT

Do you know the origin of the rule of thumb? It’s actually quite simple. 

It’s a process that can easily be derived from learning. 

I don’t know a better rule that fits the context of growing in the culture that is bdsm. 

We all learn in various ways: some are hands on, some are book learners, some need a verbally spoken lesson, others only learn from their mistakes. 

Its important to tell your sub or Dom how you learn, what best works for you. Example: Breath play, I’m a very ‘hands on’ person. I wouldn’t be able to just listen to someone’s instructions  on how to do it. I’d need to have  a submissive that can give me signs that it’s too much or not enough.

That’s just ONE example of how I think “the rule of thumb” applies to me. There are many others , but I think I’d focus on that. 

Curious, who in the class knows the origin of the rule of thumb?

What is your perfect way of instruction? How do you learn in the lifestyle? 

 

Stay classy, Sam Diego. 

 

4 days ago. Thu 18 Apr 2019 01:13:56 PM IDT

Get the fuck out of my heart , Bitch

I wish i could turn it off like a light switch

Just cause you told me 'fuck you' you think i'd turn blue

Doesn't mean that I have to

You see i have a motherfucking heart of gold

did you think you could stay there till you turned old?

Your lease is up time to pay it forward , Bitch

Oh what's that are your lips stitched?

It's okay, cause I've already moved on

The fastest that I've ever run

It's never good for you to bite the hands that feed

and you think the military will go easy?

Honestly, that's it I'm done dwelling on your mess

It's time I kicked you out with the rest

I've had dozens of others in your exact same spot

did you think that you would make my heart rot?

Here it is, your eviction notice

but it doesn't even mean you'll notice that i stamped it on your forehead

I know you havn't read it

Get out of my heart , Bitch

 

Woke up with doe on my mind, it hurt particularly bad this morning. Had to have a outlet, chose this. 

 

Thank you for reading if you do.

5 days ago. Wed 17 Apr 2019 04:52:37 PM IDT

soo, I don’t know if you folks can tell. I love masks. I love wearing masks for cosplay. 

I have one cosplay on my bench, might get it set up for Ohayocon. Fallout 76 fire breather. Need a lot of work done on it, and to be fair after a opportunity leaves ya it really takes your breath away, like getting knees in the diaphragm so my motivation has been slowly recovering. 

I think my next outfit will be Ronin from marvel comics after this one. It will be super fun to do a marvel char as opposed to a video game one or anime one. 

 

That, or Karl Ruprect Kroenen from hellboy.  Hard choice, still not where I want to be for my cloud cosplay.

 

https://hellboy.fandom.com/wiki/Karl_Ruprect_Kroenen

https://fallout.gamepedia.com/Fire_Breather_uniform

https://ultimate-marvel-cinematic-universe.fandom.com/wiki/Ronin_%28Nozomu_Akatsuki%29

 

What do you folks think?

 

6 days ago. Tue 16 Apr 2019 04:28:49 PM IDT

We’ve all been there. Longing, wanting , aching: desire basically controlling our thoughts and emotions. It’s important to take a step back and get a birds eye view of the situation. Sometimes even confide in someone about said issue, or obsession you have.

Ive had issues with obsession all of my life, from video games to weirdos I’ve met on the internet. As I grew up I’ve learned to see an unhealthy lifestyle choice , and with that I’ve learned to cut ties with people, things, foods that I really don’t need in my life. 

 

One good example, is my first failed opportunity. She was young, I was stupid, we had a dysfunctional mechanic with no off switch. I’d pull away she would pull me back in, till I kicked her to the curb. She was a unhealthy obsession , and as such...when she was gone I grew desperate to fill that void.

So with that, I started grabbing at everything, tugging them towards me as I fell. Finally I snapped. My first attempt at this lifestyle broke me. I have no issue admitting I am human and make mistakes. Sometimes the best way to learn is by making mistakes, and as long as you come back out better on the other side...you’ll be doing fine.

 

anyone else here make mistakes? Feel free to share. (Bdsm or not) 

6 days ago. Tue 16 Apr 2019 04:23:30 PM IDT

We’ve all been there. Longing, wanting , aching: desire basically controlling our thoughts and emotions. It’s important to take a step back and get a birds eye view of the situation. Sometimes even confide in someone about said issue, or obsession you have.

Ive had issues with obsession all of my life, from video games to weirdos I’ve met on the internet. As I grew up I’ve learned to see an unhealthy lifestyle choice , and with that I’ve learned to cut ties with people, things, foods that I really don’t need in my life. 

 

One good example, is my first failed opportunity. She was young, I was stupid, we had a dysfunctional mechanic with no off switch. I’d pull away she would pull me back in, till I kicked her to the curb. She was a unhealthy obsession , and as such...when she was gone I grew desperate to fill that void.

So with that, I started grabbing at everything, tugging them towards me as I fell. Finally I snapped. My first attempt at this lifestyle broke me. I have no issue admitting I am human and make mistakes. Sometimes the best way to learn is by making mistakes, and as long as you come back out better on the other side...you’ll be doing fine.

 

anyone else here make mistakes? Feel free to share. (Bdsm or not) 

1 week ago. Mon 15 Apr 2019 07:04:01 PM IDT

Riddle me this #2

you are in a metal box, only thing you have in the box is a table and a saw. How do you get out of the box? 

 

Hint#1: This is THE classic think outside the box riddle. 

 

Hint#2: it involves word play.

1 week ago. Mon 15 Apr 2019 03:43:32 PM IDT

I love riddles, they are so much fun. Get those brain juices flowing. 

Riddle me this #1: 

When you add me to a bucket it gets lighter, when you look through me you see what’s on the other side, what am I?