Saw a comment thread on FetLife this morning.
A guy who was in a "dynamic" commented on quiet a popular sadists post about his partner. The guy tagged his own partner in this post saying "why can't you be a good girl like this?"
The submissive commented back saying she'd do better for him and would keep trying.
He said "good because you know you are always replaceable"
Comments like these are NOT okay!
If humiliation is part of your dynamic and that is your kink then fair enough but know the difference between consensual humiliation and down right abusive behavior that creates insecure toxic hang ups!
Humiliation takes trust, understanding, communication and a very long time to establish.
If you are new into the scene don't take this lightly and think it's part and parcel of the kink world.
If you express you are new on whichever platform you use, you will no doubt be inundated with messages! Mostly from guys with profiles like "new to this site but not new to kink have 20 years of experience! Want a new submissive to mould as my own!"
Red flag
They'll usually have either profile pictures of their dick or pictures on their own with no face showing with such things as "I don't have face pictures because of work" which can be true but usually there's still proof of kink pictures with other people.
You'll occasionally get those that use "stock" photos too, something you'd see on the cover of a smutty book.
Another red flag!
As someone who has been around the block with this, my advice would be to go to events and make submissive friends first, the real doms usually follow.
To those you do meet online that look legit still be very very careful because they could be catfishes all the same.
I write this as a women that's been fortunate enough not to fall into this trap but I often see many that do so please brothers and sisters alike be very careful and watch for those red flags!
Never expose yourself online or IRL purely because a "dom" demands it, submission is earned not entitled
Stay safe folks! ✌️
