Recently, about a month ago, I blogged, as did Kitty, about our first meetup. I will do the mandatory recap of that event. I had flown in Kitty from her location and I had driven the nearly 800 miles from mine. I arrived early at the airport, 3 hours, as I try to be always be early. I didn't exactly plan on being three hours early, but weather delayed her flight and lets face it, I got a little excited. I already knew what she looked like and what she would be wearing as I had picked it out the night before. She also knew what I would be wearing as well as I had modeled it the night before. Of course I went with the Gucci suit, because lets face it, this was special. When we saw each other she hesitated and asked if I was pleased and then after I said "Definitely", she asked if she could hug me. She was trembling with excitement, as was I (but I hide it better, I think). I allowed it and we kissed. Totally just like in the movies... you know the scene, loud music playing and people all stopped and clapping. Ok, well it was everything but that last part about the crowd.
So, this blog is about preparing and maybe a few hints about what to do and what not to do in preparation.
First, make sure you know who you are looking for. Hopefully both the Dom and the sub know what each other look like and haven't sent those sexy pictures of someone else during the initial online exchange of pictures. It happens. This is a prime reason to be upfront and honest as to what we look like. I am not a Tom Cruise but apparently Kitty thinks I am. She is, by the way, a true Venus with beauty stunning and beyond belief. (I digress)
Second, hopefully the clothes are all also known to each other. This will help you two pick each other out of the crowd. The crowds are huge and anything like this will help if she or he is flying in. If you two are meeting somewhere else it will still allow each other to identify each other. In Kitty and my case, I always pick out her outfits so it was a treat to allow her to pick out mine. It built her excitement to watch me try on so many clothes. While it is fun to pick out hers, I hate picking out mine.
Third, as the Dom, have everything planned. Know where the hotel, Build-a-Bear, restaurants, etc are. Make sure you have the funds available. I now use a seperate card to ensure if things get impulsive, I can still pay the bills. The Dom always should pay, even if the sub is a millionaire. Do you know what movie you two are going to see and where is the theater? If the sub is a little, hopefully the Dom already knows what she eats and doesn't so the Dom is prepared to order on the little's behalf. Has the dynamic reviewed the protocols for out in public ahead of time?
And hopefully, the pair of you have discussed what type of visit this first visit is. Obviously its a "get to know each other" one but what does that mean? Straight to sex in the car? Straight to some kink club? Walking around and sight seeing? A quiet evening alone in the hotel followed by exploration of the city the next day? Is sex even on the venue? If so, do you have the necessary precautions? A first visit, no sex, no BDSM might work for you two and allow for getting to know each other better....good luck with that.
Have fun, relax, be ready for an alternate plan and enjoy each other. Hopefully its the start of a long time together as a dynamic.
What not to do... Panic. What if she or he is not what you expected? I say roll with it. Fate brought you together.. do not fight it. If he isn't the hunk of burning love that he managed to portray by getting all the right camera angles and drawing on his abbs, so what, he is real. Same thing for her. We guys are mere amateurs at getting those camera angles, lol. Kitty and I were completely upfront. I knew I was meeting a stunningly beautiful young lady and she knew she was meeting up with a grizzled old man who looks like a crazy prospector with about 20 or so cases of sun stroke who hadn't owned a comb in years. Lucky her. If you as the Dom are a little short on funds right now, and possibly always, planes aren't cheap, then plan for free or low cost events to spend together. Kitty's plane trip was $500, my rental about $900 and the restaurant maybe another $40. Add in gas, airport parking, etc and another $100 is spent. Be ready. But, do not break your bank. She really wants to be with you, feel you, smell you, hear you, etc.
As always if your dynamic does not match ours, change the pronouns.
"Kitty, hurry up, we got to go, the movie starts in a half hour. Huh? ... No I haven't seen Bundys left shoe. ... Wait, he has two shoes right there. ... What do you mean they are both right shoes? ... But kitten his left and right shoes are the same. ... I understand what Bundy says. ... Yes kitten .. Maybe Bundy just wants to go without shoes ... Huh? You think he does too, Ok.. Well yes, he can go without his shoes, Daddy is ok with that.. Um, what? I don't know if he should go without his shirt too. Wait, wait wait, no Daddy is ok with it.... Huh? Oh, well Daddy did sort of see that coming too. Of Course he can go without his pants too (the clothes would just disappear anyways) What kitten? What do you mean what was Daddy just mumbling? Oh, I said we need to hurry to get bundy to the movies."
We have established that This guy, Daddy Ant cannot spell, punctuate or string more than four words together in a seeming sensical manner.. I have only one thing to say in my defense.. SO!