3 years ago. March 22, 2021 at 2:07 PM
Now let's start with a show of hands how many here would agree that good old fashioned Christians could be in this lifestyle?
I would say that there's a mix of yes and no out there, not surprising considering that the what I call way to extreme Christians would criticize our lifestyle while the others probably practice it in private.
Let's talk about submissive's, seems kinda like a new concept for some but it's been around since humans have been. Take a Google minute and type in submissive in the bible, quite a long list of passages telling women and men to be submissive, to God, husbands, to slave owners.
I believe that you can have a wonderful functioning life in BDSM along with your religion, nothing has really changed, except maybe the sex is just a little more interesting. 👍😊 Lets be honest here women have been submissive to men for centuries, the only difference between vanilla life and here is that we seem to cherish our submissive's a little more than in the vanilla world.
How can you say that you ask, take this into consideration. In the vanilla world relationship, men court a woman, men ask to marry said woman, they get married. Now she either stays home and has kids, takes care of the house, she is a submissive to her husband. She has a job, still, takes care of the kids,house, her husband, more responsibility but still a submissive. Sex may contain some extra things but not to extreme.
Now in this lifestyle, we take a little more time to properly vet our future submissive or dominant, remember we're letting them have our deepest dark secrets and total control of our trust. In a vanilla relationship how many years if at all are your darkest fantasies told to your significant other? Maybe they are and maybe not because one may not share your desire to slap an ass or be slapped on the ass.
In this lifestyle, we take proper care of our submissive's, not just wipe our cocks on the curtains and head to the fridge for a beer afterwards. We are more concerned about our submissive's health and emotional wellbeing because they have entrusted us with every fiber of themselves. We all see the divorce rate in the real world, I can say that from what I have seen I doubt that after spending so much time investing in a submissive or dominant you're just going to throw it away for the first submissive or dominant to walk by. Lot of time wasted, with having to start all over again.
Submissive has been around for a long time, what has changed is the dynamic of how it's done. Vanilla lifestyle is changing in my opinion, out with the old in with something a little different. But to the ultra religious it will always be vanilla, because it takes an open mind to change the way you see yourself and things in life.
Now I want to bring up polyamorous relationships, wait, what, yes it's not my life but I want you all that think about something before passing judgment on it. Think about this, it's been around longer than you, it's in the bible, be fruitful and multiple, can you all say Harem. Read in the bible about the many wives they had, look it up on Google about all the different cultures that had harems, quite a lot.
Now let me ask you this question is it possible to love more than one person? I truly believe it is, if it wasn't then all the mormons would be wrong, all the polyamorous families would be wrong. They seem to have found something that works, me personally I can't do it.
Not that the idea of having 2 submissive's to enjoy is a really wonderful thing, it's the fact I can only handle one extremely strong, independent, woman and she scares the shit out of me. Imagine 2 of them in the same house and they both get pissed at you, not sleeping for fear of what they can do to you is needless to say terrifying. So to all the dominants that have more than one submissive I salute you, but remember the guy who had a harem, now he is either one tough son of a bitch or just fucking nuts I'll let you decide that one.
One last thing, sex before marriage, being from a religious family I will say I totally understand why you wouldn't do it. Ever since you were a child it's been drilled into your head that your body is for the person you love and marry. Save your virginity for that one special person, to this I say bullshit.
Let me explain, so you wait for mister right or misses right, you get married with the most amazing, beautiful wedding. Then comes the honeymoon, mood is right, all systems are go and it's fucking boring or disappointing. So now you're going to spend the rest of your life with total unsatisfactory sex, oh life is wonderful outside the bedroom but even after many years of marriage you're still unsatisfied in the bedroom. Next step will result in either cheating or divorce, why because you bought a car without the test drive.
My mother and I had a long conversation about this one day, I explained that to have a wonderful marriage things need to work both in and out of the bedroom. I test drove both of my past wives and my beautiful lioness, because if you or them are not totally satisfied then whats the point of the relationship.
Be honest, how many of you would be in this lifestyle if your needs and wants weren't being fulfilled? I can honestly say that if there was no spark in the bedroom it would have been a dead end before it ever got started with my beautiful lioness. My opinion is a match in both the bedroom and life will be more satisfying than just a match on one side.
To anyone who waits until marriage I commend you on having patience, trust and faith that it will be a wonderful, perfect life, me I dont have that kind of patience, trust, or faith in humans without some kind of evaluation.
In conclusion, can you be religious and be in the lifestyle, absolutely, holding strong to your beliefs is essential to who you are, finding someone that shares your beliefs is priceless. Believing in something that makes you a better person as a whole is a wonderful thing, believing in something that makes you judgmental and hateful because it has a label, not so much.
To all I wish you a wonderful day, my lioness and I are having a date night on one of the few days she has off, so I need to get my happy ass to bed soon. Big hug to all, much love from Lion and Hazel. 😊❤