Salacious

Mind Fuckery gets my attention 

Intelligence keeps me engaged 

Lacking in either gets you forgotten

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Have you ever been in a new relationship and it felt like you've known each other for years even though it's only been a very short time? 

Then all of a sudden she/he said or did something that reminded you quickly of a bad experience you thought you'd forgotten.

While ruminating on that undesired perhaps unintended action, you decide to sabotage this great thing rather than take a chance on being hurt again.

We all view ourselves and our past experiences through our own set of lenses.

Often the way you view yourself is seldom the way others view you. Have you ever been with someone who you felt could see you, I mean really see you as you truly are?

When you view your present endeavors, through the lens of your past failures, you may be unknowingly sabotaging yourself and your future pleasures.

Not to say our guard or walls aren't erected for good reason, but by allowing each relationship/dynamic it's own discoveries, space, and time, we can enjoy or discard based on merit and not unresolved insecurities.

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Men are problem solvers by nature. We hear the problem and BAM our minds go into “Ok here’s what you need to do” mode.

And that’s great, that’s how we are designed, logical thinking problem-solving machine. 

But when it comes to women and relationships, we have to put our logic on pause sometimes and just be present.

In my experience a woman does not need a man to solve her problems ( unless she asks us to)

Have you ever had your Sub come to you with a problem she’s having? 

Perhaps it’s with her boss at work or her relationship with her family, friend etc, and by the end of the discussion you’re left feeling like you only compounded the problem by helping?

When she comes to me with a concern or problem, I've learned to listen actively.

And eventually ask “ are you sharing for me to listen or to offer my thoughts” and she will tell me what she needs from me at that time.

Now not every problem or discussion is always met with that response, sometimes it’s clear what she needs to hear from me. Even in those situations I always ask clarifying questions.

In most cases, she wants me to be present with her, to allow her space and attention while unveiling her mind and emotions of what distresses her.

And once she feels your presence, she will appreciate you in very special ways.

At least in my experience.

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I know it really can seem that way, but I think that's just because I talk about the way people THINK ABOUT THINGS ANYWAY ON A REALLY DEEP LEVEL, so because what
I'm describing fits their inner experience so well, it may seem like I'm fucking with them, but really I'm just discussing what they know anyway. See, cause there's what you know, there's what you know you know,and there's you know, but you don't know you know. So
when the things you know but don't know, become the things you know you know, you can just THINK THINGS DIFFERENTLY, you know? ?

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I don't want you to do Wifey shit.

I don't want you to do gf shit.

I don't need you to do motherly shit.

I want you to do slutty shit.

I'm Not going to do Husband shit!

I'm Not going to do Boyfriend shit!

I'm Not going to do best friend shit! 

I am going to do mind fucking, leg quivering, speaking in tongues, Dom shit!

I am what I am

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In order to reach your full potential, you have to be somewhat selfish in putting your needs first, so you can make sure everyone and everything in your life is aligned with your goals and values. Tolerating low quality people and settling for less than what you really want or are capable of invites more of the same. Like tends to attract like. Good quality people attract other good quality people. Successful people attract other successful people. If you find yourself asking ” why do I continue to attract the same quality of people” remember what you project you will attract. Therefore, raise your quality measures, seldom settle, and choose wisely!

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I strongly believe the mind is our largest sex organ. I absolutely love and thoroughly enjoy the  art of mental seduction! I don’t think I fully appreciated the importance and the erotic fun of building that sense of anticipation with a partner until much later in life… With experience comes an appreciation for the finer things in life – my goal of great sex is to savor her slowly and enjoy the journey rather than rushing to the destination as I did when I began this journey. I've learned that it's not always about telling her  what I want or what I will do to her. In fact I speak to her mind and her active imagination. I stimulate her with her own thoughts of pleasure be speaking in such a way that leaves gaps which she fills with her own thoughts and anticipation. I have learn that a women want to please, but what turns me own may not be the same mechanism that binds her mind. Therefor to truly have mind-blowing sex and not a purely physical act but an act of intense emotions from her. Learn to lead her mind with her own thoughts and fantasies. And you both will feel connected on a deeper level and you will see a whole other side of your vivacious vixen?

  The problems of your past are your business. The problems of your future are my privilege.

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