The need to belong or to be wanted and desired is a common theme in both slave/sub and dominant (male or female). If you are seeking submission you must wait for your invitation (although a good marketing campaign is always helpful) and if your a Dominant you must wait for your an answer. Now, if I was smart I would change to Switch as it gives you so much more flexibility and you are able to graciously bow out of any relationship or potential relationship by simply informing your play partner that you need to switch. As for me, I’ll keep hoping and waiting like some nervous school boy (if it’s Sadie Hawkins) waiting for his “Sadie” to say those magical words, “I have decided to make you my slave”. And my heart swells (well maybe it’s not my heart ).