You know you want more. You need more. And here I am to force you to obey my every word...
By listening you consent to hearing: CW: Hypnosis, Conversational induction, light suggestions of relaxation, suggestions of experiencing overwhelming submission to be given to me/your Dominant, gentle wake up at the end delivered in story format.
Contains: Hypnosis (make sure you're in a safe place) with a medium wakeup at the end.
Your Feisty FemDom wants to hypnotize you to drain you of all your desire.
Listen here:
This is a hypnosis audio, so make sure that you're into experiencing hypnosis and that you're in a safe place to do so.
Hypnosis: Conversational induction, light suggestions of relaxation, suggestions of experiencing overwhelming desire to be given to me/your Dominant, gentle wake up at the end delivered in story format. . This is your safe place to explore your submissive tendencies.
Have fun!
Drift away and discover a new way to become submissive to your Domme.
Listen here:
This is a hypnosis audio, so make sure that you're into experiencing hypnosis and that you're in a safe place to do so.
Hypnosis: There's a conversational induction and a mild wake up at the end. A trigger is set to feel deep submission when you hear "Good job".
ASMR: Soft spoken, Ear to ear whispers, ambiance.
Have fun!
Succumb to your desire and become a living carpet for your Domme.
Contains: Hypnosis (make sure you're in a safe place) with a medium wakeup at the end.
Time to be bound tightly. So tight you might not even be able to breath. Feel your chest compress under the tender ministrations of my device.
Listen here:
This is a hypnosis audio, so make sure that you're into experiencing hypnosis and that you're in a safe place to do so.
Hypnosis: There's a conversational induction and a mild wake up at the end.
ASMR: Soft spoken, Ear blowing, Ear to ear whispers, ambiance.
Have Fun!
Gooey with post scene happiness my sub slides off the cross into the warm embrace of the blanket I’ve prepared for her. We cuddle and caress each other while cooing reassurances that follow a successful scene. Aftercare is the third act grand finally of Kinky play. There are so many things which I love about it and here are just a few.
Cuddling
I love to cuddle. Physical closeness is important to me after play and aftercare holds space for it. Skin on skin, whether romantic or platonic strengthens my connection with my partner and gives us a chance to bask in the afterglow of a great scene. Arms intertwined and sweaty together, we can relax as two halves of one whole. Physical closeness helps to equalize your body after play while preparing you for your return to the mundane world. Like a magical seal, cuddling during aftercare allows the good feelings to sink into you and stay.
Reassurance
Aftercare is the perfect post scene time to reassure my sub that they’ve pleased me while they reassure me that I delivered a skillful scene. Tops, subs, and everyone in-between need aftercare. Whether it’s to be assured that no, you’re not a monster for delivering that delicious beating or yes you did in fact, please me, aftercare is a need that can be experienced by all. Additionally, whether people want to admit it or not, they like to be reassured.
Preparing For Re-entry
The highs of a fantastic scene are indeed blissful. Returning to mundane life? Not so much. Aftercare eases the transition from the high point to the baseline of everyday life. From drinking water and having a snack to help equalize the adrenaline rush to having quiet time to reflect on the wonders of your scene, after care helps creates an easier path to reenter normalcy.
What do you like about aftercare? Feel free to share with me in the comments below!
Protecting yourself against shame may seem like an endless chore. We live in a judgmental world, and people are eager to say something negative in attempt to humiliate you. The more tools you have to help you in your endeavor to protect your authentic expression the better off you will be. These two truths pave the way to fearless self-expression of your individuality.
Someone Will Hate You and/or What You Do
There’s no question. Someone already hates you. You have your own personal hater – or several. They just haven’t made themselves know to you yet. This concept frees you by eliminating the worry that you might make someone hate or dislike you. Honestly, this behavior is more an expression of who they are as a person. Suffice it to say that the psychology of a hater is an interesting study. They live to hate, no matter who, and it doesn’t matter if it’s you. They don’t care. So strive not to worry. Haters gonna hate after all.
Someone Will Love You and/or What You Do
In the militant world of cancel culture you can easily become so fearful that you don’t move forward, or even move at all. However, no matter what you do, someone is going to love it or you. I’ve seen people who’ve singlehandedly destroy groups and attempt to destroy people who walk around with their beloved followers in tow. There’s nothing, absolutely nothing you can do to make everyone hate you. Someone will love you. Not that this is a challenge!
Take comfort in this knowledge and live your life by your own rules. Let the lovers and the haters fall where they may. One thing is certain, you’ll be happier.
Recently, a friend commented on my flexibility and mentioned that I should consider using my platform to create a something like a flexibility program for kinksters. At first, I laughed, and then I thought it might be a great idea. So here is my debut attempt. But first, please read the obligatory disclaimer listed at the end of this writing.
Goal: Resting your butt on your feet when you kneel.
Strength First
I’m double jointed, or hypermobile. It sounds fantastic, I’m flexible, and I can do neat tricks, but it all comes at a cost. I do experience a lot of pain and I must work on my strength. Strength supports flexibility. There’s a relationship and a balance between the two. Before we try for flexibility, we should prepare with strength in most cases. So, our first exercise is strength based.
Exercise 1: Leg Raise for Kneeling
Step 1. Raise your leg in front of you as if you were marching.
Step 2. Bring your ankle to your butt, alternating having your foot pointed and relaxed.
Step 3. Hold for 10 seconds.
Step 4. Repeat 10x
Modifications: Leg Raise for Kneeling
You need to start where you are able. If you can’t do this standing, do it laying down and build your strength that way until you are able to do it while standing up. Bring your ankle as close to your butt as possible and try for a little more. It’s this push for a little more (progressive overload) that develops your strength.
Recommendations: Leg Raise for Kneeling
For balance, I recommend doing the same exercise with your thigh pointed straight down (just raising your ankle to your butt) and with your thigh extended as far back behind you as possible. Remember to alternate your foot being pointed out and at a natural angle.
Exercise 2: In Practice Active Stretch
Step 1 – Get on your knees on something soft like a yoga mat.
Step 2 – Kneel up as if you were praying (or sucking cock).
Step 3 – Slowly lower your butt to your ankles as if you were kneeling for your Master. Go as far as you can go, then hold for 10 seconds.
Step 4 – Return to the position in step 2.
Step 5 – Repeat 10x
Modifications: In Practice Active Stretch
If you are unable to kneel in step 2 position, use a chair to help you. Place a chair in front of you. You can use it to help you get up and down from your knees you can also use it to help you lower your butt to your ankles. Start where you can and work slowly to where you need to be.
Recommendations: In Practice Active Stretch
This is an active stretch, so the goal is to be engaging your muscles the whole time. Avoid ‘relaxing into it’ when you finally get your butt to your ankles or as low as you can go. If you ‘relax into it’ you’ll be applying your full weight to your muscles and making it a passive stretch which increases the risk of injury.
Let me know how this works for you and if you’re interested in more information like this! Practice well and happy kneeling!
Obligatory Disclaimer
Please keep in mind that all opinions expressed here are solely my own. While I am currently completing my Yoga Instructor Certification, I am not a physician, nutritionist, or registered dietitian. Information provided may relate to exercise, fitness, diet, and nutrition and is intended for your personal use and informational purposes only. You should consult with a physician before beginning any exercise, fitness, diet, or nutrition routine, especially if you are pregnant of have pre-existing health conditions. If you experience any pain or difficulty with any exercises, stop immediately. Nothing contained here should be considered as medical advice or diagnosis. While every effort is made to present accurate and reliable information, we do not guarantee its accuracy, and our not responsible for errors or omissions. I disclaim any liability for the decisions you make based on this information. I am not responsible for content found on any other websites linked to by this site, nor by any sites that link to this, whether directly or indirectly. Your use of this writing is solely at your own risk.
“Read twice as much as you write” is advice frequently given to writers and authors that could easily apply to anything in life. A perfect fit in the kink department too, “Watch (or read!) twice as much as you play” would be the perfect adage. The reasons for watching two times more you do are many, here’s three.
Educate Yourself
From expressly educational content to entertainment there’s a lot you can learned. One benefit is discovering technique that can take a good scene to a higher, more phenomenal level and educational content is a good place to find those tips and tricks. Who doesn’t want to make their scenes better? Additionally, trying out new things can be fun and titillating. Learning technique will also help you discover which scenes you can safely recreate from the porn you watched. Exploring educational content helps you improve what you do, giving you and your partners a superior experience.
Get Inspired
Watching others play or reading kink stories can generate a lot of new ideas for you and your partner(s). On the Topside, well, sometimes you can develop “writers block”. Repeating the scenes you love is often delightful and fulfilling. Creating new scenes though keeps the experience from becoming predictable. Trying new things also injects a bit of “new relationship energy” into your scene hyper-sensitizing the players and elevating your experience.
Tide Yourself Over
If you find yourself without an available play partner due to relationship change, illness, or some other reason, consuming kink content by watching or reading can help fill that gap in your life. It’s difficult when you can’t do what you love. However, if you use your down time to make lists of new things you want to try and expand your knowledge of how to do those things, you’ll at least be ready with a whole new creative “toy bag” when you’re ready to play again. Best of all, watching and reading can distract you from the sadness of not having a current play partner.
So, when you find yourself in a rut, between partners, or sick capitalize on the situation and use it as an opportunity to explore the wild world of kink content. You just might make yourself a more skilled, more creative, and more desired play partner when you’re ready to return to the scene.
Next week: Kneel For Your Master
One of the most empowering things I read pointed out that how week view something can make an incredible difference in our feelings of agency. While I can’t locate the exact piece of writing now, it was shared widely on social media, it can be summed up like this:
They don’t make racist remarks because I’m a person of color they make racist remarks because they are bigots.
This reframing is something to work on internalizing. It’s made a big difference in my mental health, and I believe it will help others as well.
Language Matters
How we speak to others and most of all ourselves can make a huge difference in the outcomes of most situations. Studies have shown that people that wish to lose weight who say “I don’t eat that” instead of “I can’t eat that” are far more likely to succeed. A difference of only one word alters the rate of success! There are books and articles galore on how to say things effectively, you need only to search to find them.
Play The Reframe Game
The next time you hear someone throw shade on your fetish play the reframe game with it – if only to yourself. For example, if you hear someone say, “kinky people are gross” instead of thinking “they think I’m gross because I’m kinky” think “they think kinky people are gross because they are close minded and judgmental”.
Practice Makes Progress
The first few times you play the reframing game you’ll have to work hard to catch yourself in the act of turning something against you and then reframing it. However, with practice you’ll be reframing your way to a better life experience!