Hi everyone. I guess I should start by introducing myself and explaining a little about myself. I am a 22 year old bisexual female masochistic submissive/Little who would die to get some pain inflicted unto her for breakfast, lunch, and dinner while simultaneously having my superior/Dom pick my clothes out for me :-). I consider myself to be bisexual because I am attracted to both the male and female gender while also being able to visualize myself having intimate relationships with both genders. I have been interested in the BDSM community for about 2 years - I found my initial interest through social media and observing sex workers. I never knew of this community until I started paying attention to whenever a sex worker posted about her/his/their past, where she/he/they came from to get where she/he/they are today.
There was a very recent time where I was in a monogamous relationship where I could not express this side of myself without some type of conflict arising - it was one of the most sexually and mentally frustrating (and longest) situations I had put myself in. 9/10 sexual encounters were strictly missionary and... Unfortunately for him, it was his first relationship (EVER) and the poor bastard chose a freak in the mind and in the sheets... He didn't stand a chance. Of course, he felt his side of sexual insecurities because he only knew what he assumed on his own and believed he was not fulfilling my needs without any effort to understand and grow WITH me. Fast forward to now - I'm writing my first blog on a BDSM-friendly community page, single and HAPPY! I already feel at home on this page, and to be surrounded by those of all genders and sexual orientations who want to belong in a safe space is hard to come (cum) by.
Now, don't get it twisted - this by no means is all about sex. I was in conversation with a Dom yesterday about what it truly means to be one's Submissive, and the definition is highly subjective to everyone/anyone involved. The examples I present are IN MY OPINION the opposite sides of a vague sub spectrum. It could the person representing a body for a Dom to call upon for photos, shameful and degrading acts, a verbal beating and call it a day. OR! it could be a 100% dedication to a certain person(s), with a set of rules and regulations - a set way to behave, dress, who must have a certain way of presenting oneself. Both of these definitions are wonderful and serve a purpose to every individual who is a Sub. Often, these two situations intertwine and create something so very complex and beautiful. It is no one's place to judge a Sub's situation.
I by NO MEANS know a darn thing in this community. I am strictly conversing about what my personal thoughts and feels are on my first couple of days as an open Sub who was previously closeted during an important relationship in her life. This post is kind of everywhere, but I was able to get my brain dump out to the public. I must bring this up if there is any Sub who is reading this: Your opinion matters sweet angel. If he/she/they does/do not allow you to speak your mind (unless previously agreed upon) or forces you into anything beyond what your safe word allows - get the HECK out of there. You deserve a Dom who will care for you and treat you like the beautiful Sub that you are and who RESPECTS his/her/their Sub's every word. Before I close this, I thought I would include a short list of kinks/fetishes, since I enjoy getting to tell anyone and everyone any chance I get (in order from most important - least important): complete masochism in every form, bruise play, ownership, breath play, edging play, ropes/chains/leather restraints, humiliation/degradation.
STAY KINKY MY FRIENDS <3
