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What is INFJ depression? Today, we will explore the reasons why INFJs are particularly prone to depression.

Each personality type deals with stress differently and some may be more affected by negative events than the others. In fact, intuitive introverts are considered to be more susceptible to developing depression at some point specifically because of their idealistic nature and poor adaptation to a practical and chaotic world. Thus, the INFJ personality type makes no exception to this rule. This is where the concept of INFJ depression comes into play.
INFJs have many good qualities such as intuition, kindness and creativity.

INFJs See beyond Faces and Words

INFJs see two people in each one of us. They notice the public person, the one that appears outwardly, that everyone sees. Their minds are able to assimilate all the subtle non-verbal cues that are then synthesized and interpreted. This provides INFJs with a quantity of information about the inner world of people they meet or see. They can easily see beyond appearances and understand the deep motivations and intentions of people, including any other problems and disturbances.
They grow with more wisdom than the average of their peers. Some feel even wiser than their teachers or parents. They can take on the role of counsellors for their friends or siblings or even for their adult family members from an extraordinarily young age. INFJs have confidence in their judgments and their “visions”. They often have dreams or insights that may seem almost premonitory.
To others, after an initial scepticism, an INFJ may seem prophetic, gifted with psychic abilities or at least very perceptive.

Deep Thinkers in a Superficial World

INFJs are deep thinkers who are reluctant to believe the opinions shared by the majority. They are often the last ones to read a bestseller, feeling that if others think it is a good book, then it probably is not.
They are purists and classicists. Many INFJ love collecting antiques, historical artefacts, old books, rare art, anything that satisfies their taste. They often feel fascinated by a precise historical period or by a specific kind of music. Hence, they prefer a classic novelover a new bestseller.
INFJs are both creative and responsible, both artistic and logical, both spiritual and scientific, both intuitive and analytical. INFJs grow up feeling “different” from their peers. They feel misunderstood by the people around them, who can easily ignore their introspection and their observations. Under negative circumstances, the INFJ may feel very isolated and rejected.
Because of all these rare qualities, many INFJs feel alien to the world and feel like they don’t belong here. Some describe their lives as a continuous Deja vu. Others have the feeling of dissociation from their bodies as if their soul is moving independently of their body while they observe. Thus, it is not uncommon to question the mental health of INFJ people.
Because of all these rare qualities, many INFJs feel alien to the world and feel like they don’t belong here. Some describe their lives as a continuous Deja vu. Others have the feeling of dissociation from their bodies as if their soul is moving independently of their body while they observe. Thus, it is not uncommon to question the mental health of INFJ people.

Things That Lead to INFJ Depression

Many INFJs have problems with depression that can be linked to various factors. For example, they get depressed when they feel that their creative inspiration has abandoned them. Or because they feel alone and misunderstood by others. Or because they are not satisfied with their career or relationships.
They worry about the needs of others and strive to maintain harmony in the external environment. They are very concerned about humanitarian, social or moral issues with particular regard to the family and closest friends. So they sacrifice their needs for the good of others.
Ironically, they have more difficulty understanding their own emotions, often feeling moody, pessimistic or restless.

A Harsh Reality Can Be Too Much to Handle For an INFJ

INFJs indulge in feeling victims because life is unjust, everything ends badly, etc. Even if they do not think of an immediate solution, they feel better after expressing their feelings through words or tears.
INFJs often do not expect others to solve their problems, but they do hope that people could simply offer support, empathy and reassurance. Without this, the INFJs feel isolated and depressed, fleeing into their inner and fantastic world.

Dealing with Conflict

Another typical problem that can cause INFJ depression is the conflict between what INFJs think and the external harmony with others. For example, at school, they might consider false or stupid what the teacher or a friend says. But they still want to maintain a harmonic situation/connection.
Therefore, repressing their emotions can be harmful to their emotional equilibrium.

Perfectionism

Furthermore, INFJs are the most perfectionistic of all the psychological types. Unfortunately, the INFJs feel that their idealist visions can hardly work in the rocky, fixed reality.
It is difficult for the INFJs to accept that such strong and important ideas cannot be realized and are not satisfied with anything less than what they feel is right. What others can consider and accept as a partial success is a total failure for an INFJ.
If they do not maintain hope for their goals, the INFJs can feel as if they have no reason to live. This is why it is very important for them to act perfectly and reach their goals.

Dealing with INFJ Depression

One of the biggest problems an INFJ faces is that they must learn to appreciate the present moment by how it arrives. Instead of continuing to question life and plan for the future, they must understand how to wait for what will happen.
Through a change of perspective, they could learn to appreciate the simple pleasures of existence that they had previously ignored and despised.

References:

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Imagine being with one person 24 hours each day 7 days each week. 365 days a year. Always together!

i am loved by my Sir and love my Sir with all my heart but again, 24 hours a day 7 days a week with the same person. Then add the D/s dynamic, not just dominance but being a slave.

Slave: a person who is the legal property of another and is forced to obey them.

i have not always been a slave although i have been my Sirs submissive for as long as we have been together.

Our relationship was an example of a 50's style D/s, him being the King of the castle and me being his domestic submissive.

But the dynamics changed for one reason, that reason was the 24/7 dynamic.

10 years ago my Sir decided that he wanted us to work together and i was thrilled. We had moved back to our hometown after living 1200 miles away for 28 years.

Sir and i worked hard at learning a new career and soon his dream came true. We were working together in business and going home to be together each night.

At first i was a partner and took on administrative duties but after struggling with arguments over decisions resigned those duties and bowed to my Sir. I knelt and accepted my collar hoping that by doing that it would bring peace. It did! He was very happy with me and our relationship flourished.

Then i began to struggle. i dont have a social life anymore. Master is reclusive now and does not like social interactions. i have no girlfriends and no coworkers.

Our children and grandchildren are grown, lol. Yes I am old but remember my first born is only 16 years younger than I am. They have busy lives so we see them occasionally but most of my time is spent alone with Sir.

I read, exercise (yuck!), write blogs, watch youtube videos, porn clips, and i found the Cage which Master allows to give me some social interaction.

Now due to His age and health sexual encounters have waned. i have tried to get my mind off of sexual urges with hobbies but I have not been successful. i am an addict.

Sir is sympathetic but tells me its time that i slow down.

Never! Lol!

Is there a point to this blog?

Not really!

i am just venting.

24/7 is different than anything i have ever experienced.

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As a friend and i discussed different toys that i have been given for the toy box the subject of butt plugs came up and the more we chatted the more excited i became.

So i ask for permission to shop, i was granted that task and so the adventure began. Thank goodness for the internet , giggle.

To my delight i found these beautiful jewels!

Once they were ordered Master said that they were a very nice addition and He couldn't wait to take a picture for his phone when one was in place.

Then i almost peed myself from laughing when He said "Most women hand down there collection of jewelry to their children, your children slut are in for a very big shock !"

Sometimes I retreat to my secret place

Where i am eternally young!

A place that is perfect!

Always peaceful!

A place full of love and kindness.

Where there is no hate or harm.

Only a warm calm that covers me with peace.

Is there a utopia?

Yes!

In my special secret place

i believe there is!