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So I've really been racking my head over how to discuss something with my Sir. I'm worried about offending him which I do not want to do, he's a very sweet loving Dom, but I feel as if hes not being very dominant, and I find myself feeling a bit empty, I'm kind of confused. I don't want to hurt his feelings, or make him think Im questioning his domliness. Things just seem to be humdrum vanilla lately. I know he's been busy with his granddaughter and swim lessons, maybe he's just tired. Any suggestions? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 😊

KinkyJ(dom male) - Tell him how you feel. You should always discuss these things. It might just be that he's worried about going too far too soon, he might be apprehensive about pushing your limits.

6 years ago

ShellyBeans - Yes, I think your both right. I'm just nervous, I don't want to hurt his feelings. But yes, I need to sit down and talk to him. Thank you

6 years ago

Kal Foster(dom male){felicia} - Sweet Shelly, communication is the key. There are many ways to tell him how you feel without being demanding or hurtful.

“Be more dominant!!!” comes off as topping from the bottom. It sounds critical of him and can be disrespectful.

“Sir, I long for the tug of my leash. How may I serve you this evening? Your babygirl misses you.” That puts the focus on YOU, and now He is the solution, not the problem.

We all have vanilla life that we can get swept up in. Sometimes the Dom needs to be reminded that He is needed.

Hope this helps, sweetie!

6 years ago

ShellyBeans - Yes, very much so Kal tyvm

6 years ago

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