Mutterings from the dark side

OK boys and girls let's talk about safety. On the Internet it's all well-and good physically if things get too rough you just X  out. But eventually we are going to wanna meet the person who has got us hot and bothered. That's when we need to start thinking about physical safety boys and girls. There a lot a different method you can-do the Internet is full of them. Here Are a few that I think can keep everybody safe or and allow them to have a good time . 

1) Always arrange your 1st meeting in a public place and by public place I don't mean anything involved with the lifestyle, a restaurant is good a coffee-house as good a bookstore even, some place where normal societie rules will apply.  

2) Safe calls, I can't over express how important safe calls are. A safe call is nothing more then a prearranged time in which you call a designated person to let them know you're OK. Notice I said call not text the reason for this is anyone can send a text from your device you're safe call person should be able to hear the tone of your voice. I as well I suggest a coded word let them know you're OK . Never deviate from the plan or location that you set out with your safe call don't go to a different location don't miss the time. 

3) Play we all go to these meetings with the hope that play will happen and sometimes we feel pressure that it should go with your gut however never take the 1st meet back-to your place of residence pic a neutral motel equal distances from both residence. I recommend do not allow yourself any sort of bondage the 1st time out it put you in a bad situation both parties should understand and respect that 1st meet a need for security no matter how deep or excited you are about the meat keep in mind if things go well there will be more the 1st meet should always be about learning each-other meeting each-other and proceeding from their .

These are just a few items to help keep you save on your 1st meet I hope it helps 

Now back-to You're regularly scheduled madness 

It's Monday I'm trying to wake up so let try a challenge Girls drop your best cleavage shot or ass pic. Next challenge will be for the guys. Either way I do solemnly swear i am up to no good

To damn early not enough coffee yet

Ladies what's the best way to wake up your Dom? My most memorable was a fresh cup of coffee and a blow job.

So we all have limits hard and soft and that's a good thing....ish... My question is How did you reach that descison? 

Is it just the idea makes you cold?

Been there done that?

See it on face book?

Let's hear your thoughts my lovelies. 

No real ponderings today my loveliest fans. Instead advice. Enjoy the Day! Take a breath and just be. Good or bad tomorrow is but a few hours away and this moment will be gone. Savior it and take it in.

Good morning my fellow deviants. What shall we talk about Today, little Jackie paper and tough the magic dragon? Belly-button lint? Who really takes Nightquil  and tries to operate heavy machinery ?I think today instead we'll talk about comfort Levels. We all have different comfort levels in anything we do nobody starts out as an expert but as a dumb a lot of times we put our own comfort bubbles on the whole to try and fake the funk instead of taking a step back every sub is Different and unique. And remember while you're trying to get a read for the submissive she's trying to get a read for you and if you bully straight into the situation in a lot of cases she's not going to completely open up to you and tell you her likes and wants. A lot of times you have to open up and ask questions it doesn't make you weak it makes you informed at allows her to express herself tell you what she's really into and once that's out on the table you can use that to your advantage. If you don't understand something she's talking about ask you'll learn something and she will feel like she's communicating with you.Also another big sticking point if you're new to the lifestyle or new to any situation take time to understand it. If you going like you know everything about every time the sub is going to notice she may not say something to you but she will notice. A lot of Dom's and submissive the like have got themselves really bad names by pretending like they know something when they don't then we're gets around always remember take time to understand what's going on asked questions learn we're all human. We're all here to have fun and makes up make our lives a little brighter each day. We now return you to your regularly scheduled madness 

To follow up on my post from earlier this morning, I spoke about communication going both ways. A big thing that I think we all need to get around is to be honest about what Turns us on. We spend so much time beating around the Bush that we never actually get down to what gets are rocks off. When you reach that point with the person you're about to play with let them know what get you off would you like. Do you like being choked do you like being slapped you like being dragged around by your hair and forced. Guys tell the girls do you like to hear them scream do you like being forceful feel like being rough do you like watching them bounce up-and-down on you? By being honest and upfront it does 2 things. One at let you know if you should be with that person or not, if your kinks don't match up the name May be a great friend and a wonderful conversationalist. However they May not be right for Bedtime play. To a give you both a chance to go and with eyes wide-open and know where those lines are yes there's something to be said about mystery but in our lifestyle or violence and rough play often times go hand-in-hand with the mere nature Of BDS M It is better to be upfront about it so no one is hurt either physically or mentally . We now return you to your regularly scheduled madness 

What is seduction? Is it roses in poetry, is it soft sensual massages, or is it grabbing the girl by her hair dragging her across the Room throwing over the counter and taken what you want? The answer is dear readers... Yes it's all of it. What is seduction to one person May not be seduction to another person we have to take time and effort to learn the person's mind find out what it is the enjoy what it is that makes them want to submit .It's easy to f*** it's a basic mechanical function the d*** goes in the d*** goes out basic mechanics as I said. To truly get your submissive eager to please and serve you must 1st seduced their mind by doing that the clothes fall off their arouser goes up and they can't wait to please you at the risk of sounding redundant when you do that you have an Eager horny wanting s*** .Take time to learn the submissives mind did I like rough they like soft that are like dirty talk all this can be done by simple conversation listening or simply ask want to submit to get to know you they normally don't have a problem and telling you their likes and dislikes that can save a lot of hassle in the end as well as let you know if you're a good match for that submissive .Now by no means much as sang walk up grab this missive drag them around by their hair and take what you want save that for later when they're ready again the submissive has the power by communication and listening observation these things will help you understand the person's mind do they Beethoven Or are they more of a 5 finger death punch kind of person.Never assume the person you're talking to has the same things that you do that can lead to bad timing and awkward situations don't be in a hurry as I said anybody can f*** but taking time to get to know the person will accentuate the experience and allow them to be more free with you and in the end that's what we want submissive derive pleasure from serving but let's face it they like to get all from sex too .While many times as the dominant it is about the power and doing what you want Taking your submissive into consideration and there turn on will allow for more mindnumbing experience .Again never assume always ask and talk listen learn we don't know at all-and there's lots of things we can learn and sometimes a submissive is truly the best teacher .I know continue this battle later however for now ponder on what I thought look at Submissive next to you and try talking to them for once instead of just trying to get your pants .

It's a Well-known fact but often forgotten that in a bdsm relationship That the submissive has the true power without the submissives Willingness to submit to your crazy a** desires we'd all be a bunch of blowhards just dumping on her chest that being said you can't just jump up and say I'm the dominant submit a you have to seduce the mind you have to intrigue dismissive you have to get them something that makes them want to take a knee in front of you and serve you if you don't do that then you truly are worth the title dominant Master Daddy Mommy Mrs. Or new the other titles that are used just something to think about over your evening beverage we now return to your regularly scheduled madness .