happy days

this was shared with me and I posted it to a sub friend of mine I believe everyone should read it  

Now I don't want hate mail because I posted this, but every day I read sub females being fucked over

when does this shit stop..I will tell you when you stop believing the bullshit 

Online Dominants 

Searching for Mr.  online

In the dominance and submission community. Even more importantly for you, you believe you are a submissive and now wish to find a dominant for yourself. There are thousands of men out there with the word "Master" in their name. This should be easy, right? (easy? *begins laughing herself to tears*) Allow me to share with you what I have learned in four years in the online BDSM chat rooms.

1) 99.9% of all men online who say they are Dominants, are not. At best, they are Tops (someone only wanting to dominate sexually) who want nothing more than kinky sex either online or in real life. Tragically, a vast number of them will even tell you that they want real life, but have no intention of ever meeting you because they are married, in a long term relationship, or simply not interested in anything more than playing a D/s relationship game online. Everyone is going to tell you to "proceed slowly". Great idea, but it won't make you feel any better when you find out the Dom of your dreams actually lives in Estonia with his wife and five children and had no intention whatsoever of actually loving you or meeting you. I've also heard my share of stories about that great "Dom" turning out to be a female. My advice: You have the right to make a Dom earn your trust just as you must earn his. Don't be so needy that you will fall for any romantic line tossed at you only to end up with a heartache when you find out he is a player. Take your time and get to know him as a man before even thinking about discussing a D/s relationship. If the man is only interested in talking about kinky sex or how Domly he is, chances are he isn't really interested in you as a person at all. There is nothing wrong with becoming friends first. Ask tons of questions!!! You have this right. Use it. Ask around about him. Does he have a good reputation? Has he only recently shown up online? Does he allow you free access to him? i.e. phone number, address, work email..etc. Make sure he isn't hiding anything the best you can.

2) The men who are truly interested in D/s are just as new as you are Please do not expect to find someone with any weighty real life experience. They are out there but few and far between. The Doms with extensive knowledge are usually already living it in real life and are not online. There is nothing wrong with being new, but you must be aware that you are responsible for your own D/s education. I have yet to meet an obviously new "Dom" who is willing to admit that he knows next to nothing. This is disturbing as great damage can be caused by dishonesty in this area. My favorite newbie line, "I was born Dominant".....or, "I've been a Dom my entire life." Those lines should tip you off. They may have a dominant personality BUT that does NOT NOT NOT make a man A Dominant in the D/s sense. My advice: Educate yourself. Read everything you can get your hands on. Ask questions in the chat rooms. If no one answers, keep looking until you find a room willing to discuss your concerns. Bottom line: Know as much as possible about domination and submission BEFORE seeking a Dom.

3) Many Online Dominants are simply looking for an ego boost, an orgasm, or both. You have needs and desires as well as the Dominant. You have the right to expect them to be fulfilled. A lot of the Doms online are only interested in their own "wants" and will use a submissive to boost their self-esteem or fulfill sexual fantasies. They fail to tell you the truth about not really wanting a 24/7 relationship even though they know that is what you want. My advice: Be very vocal about what you expect to get from a D/s relationship. Let it be known that you will NOT settle for less. You have the right to not even discuss anything sexual if that makes you feel uncomfortable. Many players will bail when they see you KNOW what you want, you intend to get it, and will NOT play games.

4) Criminals in our midst Sadly, there ARE men online who wish to emotionally and/or physically harm you. NEVER give out ANY personal information until you can PROVE this person is safe. Many predators see submissives as an easy target. They will tell you everything you've ever wanted to hear from a man. They will look like the sweet guy next door. They will have great jobs, be well educated, and seemingly happy lives. Do not expect a criminal to act a certain way. Use your head and keep your safety first and foremost in your mind at all times. In conclusion: The chat rooms are a minefield. Prepare yourself and come well armed if this is where you wish to find a dominant.

Today would have been my mums birthday and it just happens to be mothers day too so thought I would post this poem

found this online, what do you think ?

Kneel for me. Look into my eyes and try to maintain eye contact for as long as you can. Give me your full attention. Do not speak until I am finished talking. I will let you know when that is.

People are not rational beings. Trust is almost always brittle and ephemeral. This process will be disorienting and frightening for you, but even before we begin, you should know that I am terrified.

Most people cannot do the things that I am going to ask you to do. Most people will break under this sort of stress, and if you break I will be there to help pick up the pieces, but we will go slowly… more slowly than even I think we need to, because if _we_ break, that will be the end of us.

But I trust you, and I trust us. And we are going to forge something unbreakable with that trust.

As we start this, you are going to think that I’m joking. The further along we get, the more doubts you will have – about whether or not I’m joking, about whether or not you can do this, whether or not you really want to do this. You will start to believe that maybe I’m crazy, or that maybe you are. You will question the motivation that brought you to this conclusion from the very beginning. Everything will feel unnatural at first, but I promise you that eventually it will seem second nature.

You are not you anymore. Not when you wear my collar. You are an extension of Me. You exist purely to reinforce my Will and Serve my needs. You will begin to learn the things that I like, not that I merely require. You will begin to anticipate my desires as well as my needs and you will feel incomplete while you know that there is anything that I am missing. The only way to feel complete again is to satisfy those needs and desires, and you will do anything in your power to be complete again.

I’m going to tell you to look into my eyes and tell me that you exist only to please me. You are going to feel silly when you do. You won’t believe it at first. You will hold back a kernel of yourself, a part of your own being, of something that is not Me. You will say the words, and you will want to mean them, but you won’t. Not at first.

I’m going to tell you to look up into my eyes and tell me that you exist only to please me. You are going to bear false witness at first. You will do as I command, but you will withhold a part of yourself. You will think to yourself, “I am choosing to do this. I want to forget myself, to let myself become this vessel for him. I want to stop being myself for a time.” But you won’t quite succeed. Not at first. Because you will have to think about it. Because you will feel insecure. You will feel like you’re acting. You will feel juvenile, pretending, silly. But you will be stepping closer towards being Mine. And once you are Mine, you will be finally Free.

You are not you anymore. Not when you wear my collar. There is one inside of you who has always known that you wanted this. You have been searching for the one who sees this need within you and who can foster it and cherish it and shape it, because you don’t have the knowledge or strength to shape it on your own. There is one inside of you who feels like she is being forced to confront a life that she does not want. You move through life uncertain of your place within it. You know that you belong somewhere, but you haven’t ever really found it.

I can show it to you.

When you wear my collar you are giving yourself to me. Completely. You are not you anymore. You are an extension of my Will and your only purpose will be to Serve my needs and desires – even those that I am not consciously aware of myself. Eventually you will know what I want and need before I do, and you will be there already, ready to provide.

In exchange for this, I will take your burdens. You will be Free. Your only purpose will be to Serve me and you can leave all of the rest of the uncertainty and doubt behind.

While you wear my collar, the rest of the world exists at the periphery, but it is unimportant. You, for as much as you connect to the world, cease to exist and become subsumed within my Will. You can leave doubt and uncertainty behind because they no longer matter. You have only one purpose and you are the very embodiment of that goal. Your mind, your body, your actions – they all become an extension of something outside of yourself. They all become a part of Me.

I will hold you within my Will and keep the world at bay. I will protect your essence and hold it for you so that when you are ready to take up the mantle again, it will be waiting for you, but for this moment, for right now, those things cannot touch you.

I will take your body and I will use it to satisfy my needs and desires. I will protect it and cherish it as I force it to conform to my desire. I will use it to control your mind. I will use it to mold the being inside of you that you give to me. I will hurt it, because positive punishment is faster and more effective at calling attention to undesirable behavior than other methods, and you seek to become the least you can as quickly as possible. You want to vanish within my Will and the fastest, surest way to do that is to call direct, immediate, and shocking attention to anything that is contrary to that goal.

I will hurt you, but I will keep you safe.

I will hurt you, but I will never injure you.

I will flay apart the pieces around the kernel within you that you give to me. I will burn away the pieces that don’t belong. I will leave behind the strength of nature itself. I will find the seed and I will nurture it until the uneasiness is gone, until the part that you held back can’t be seen separately any longer, until you are Free from the disorientation and feelings of silliness or the idea that you’re playing a role. I will break apart the bindings of the world upon this part of you and take it for myself.

You will remain, and the world around you will call upon you as it always has, but for a time, for a moment here and there, I will pull a deeper part of you free from that existence and I will hold it apart from reality, within my own Will.

You can always go back, but while you are Mine, I can show you the freedom that you always knew was hiding from you somewhere.

Okay. I’m done speaking now. Are you ready to begin?

Ok, ok so I thought it was funny part one, so here goes Part 2.

I go into work the other day and in the bar is the yummy long haired boy, I asked for my fav drink a virgin Mojito and he Said you love virgins, I laugh and say of course ,he says ,Oh pity ,but it’s been a while ,he almost pouted as he said that, so I said a born again will do too, he said to bring the furry cuffs, I don’t like too much pain, this guy loving, every minute of it and today said, ”I should take him home”, why not I said and he grinned

And before you pervs wonder if did, I didn’t 

Now I am wondering will there be a part 3 

Where do I start, So I work in a restaurant with a lot of lovely people, One boy that works there is very sexy and young, one day we were stood around I mentioned a whip and his eyes lit up.

A week went by and I hear Radi at work, I thought I was hearing things I turned around and there is the sexy boy I work with, He smiles and said nothing else,I asked him did he call me and he looked innocent.

2 days after me hearing Radi I get a message on a site for Ontario Mistresses, Doms, and subs and it was from a young man I didn't know and he said I didn't know you were so kinky, Omg it was the boy from work he had found me and wrote to me.

So last night I went to work and there he was like a sexy god, long brown hair flowing past his shoulders and he smiled and said, Hello sexy, Now I know it won't go further But omg, I can't believe someone found me so close to home 

I had to share this as you never know who is online looking around.. And this time the whip must have got him thinking lol, Now I know hes kinky too

Sometimes drama just gets into your life for no reason, and you go around wasting a day wondering ,why ?

For my sweet boy who means the world to me..Our love Is easy 

Good morning sunday

I just wanted to wish my sexy subbie a happy birthday, spanks your bum. 

Mistress 

Come listen to a story

Gather around...

I want to tell you a story, sit down get comfy, take a seat.

Once upon a time there was a girl.  She lived life to the fullest, with not a care in the world. Life was good… until a phone call came in one night and her and her world were turned upside down. Life wasn’t the same anymore.  

She had to make a decision fast, and she didn't have time to think. She packed up her belongings and moved far away from her friends, her life and her job.  Life was very hard, and everything in her life changed. She was very sad, lonely and depressed. She felt lost and didn't know what to do. Then along came her Knight; he helped her, talked to her, and was there for her all the time. He seem to never leave her sight. They grew closer and she trusted him.

After months of talking they became One. She trusted him and did for a long time, until the day she found out he was talking to another and dumped her, leaving her heart broken.

She was upset but carried on, and found someone to help her. They grew closer and closer, sharing secrets and life stories together as her trust grew again, stronger and stronger. He started to send her photos, tempting her, pushing her to look at him. He wasn't hers, and she knew it was wrong, but he was good…  He kept pushing and she bit; she enjoys the photos; what a silly girl she was, but he had her hook line and sinker.

More photos, more chat, and she let him be hers. He was so proud of  her that he wore her name, and she was happy.  She wanted to trust him as trust was everything, but he was still pushing photos to others and trying to get them to play.  Had the girl known, she wouldn't of made him hers.

Her friends all came around and told her stories, they tried to make her happy, but this man played her at a time when she just had a breakdown and her life was a mess. He played her.

The girl decided she’d had enough and told him to leave her. The girl was very sad that she had been lied to and used.  Life is not all a bed of roses; her life used to be, and she learned some very important lessons along the way. She is smiling and feeling happier, but she doesn’t like being hurt and lied to.

The girl stands, wrapping a finger through her hair and walks away to a better place. She walks over to her lover and holds his hand; he is so trustworthy and loving.  Smiling hand in hand, they walk away into the sunset..

The End