LaVieEnRose(sub female){Kintsugi}
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5 years ago •
Nov 21, 2019
Psychological Subspace
As I was reading round, I found this old article that I found really intriguing where the author talked about psychological subspace in regards to meeting/talking to a new Dom; for new or experienced subs alike what are your experiences with this and how did you avoid giving into this space and thinking more rationally about whether someone is the right Dom for you?
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MasterBear(other butch)
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5 years ago •
Nov 21, 2019
NRE- new relationship energy
This is a great question. I believe it applies to both sides of the whip. For me, I focus on long term. I listen carefully when they talk. I think hard about what I bring to their table - AND what they realistically bring to mine. I also have a lot of boxes that a new person in my life has to check: 1) financially secure / gainfully employed 2) no young kids 3) no using 4) understands that My Beloved comes first 5) understands my time restrictions 6) community based and eager to volunteer 7) has a brain  is driven
Those are just a few of many that I have. I find that as I go through my list the other person becomes less and less attractive.... |
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FunCouple{.-Couple-.}
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5 years ago •
Nov 21, 2019
Hello LavieEnRose
I mentioned psychological and physiology sub-space in an old post. https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?postid=13981&blog_id=28559 This is my take on it and sharing is caring. FC |
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LaVieEnRose(sub female){Kintsugi}
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5 years ago •
Nov 21, 2019
@MasterBear a checklist is great, whether just a mental one or you physically have things written down so you don’t forget! It’s so easy to get swept away in the feelings to forget to be logical
@funcouple thanks for the link! I’ll have to read it when it’s not 2am in the morning lol |
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