The plight of being slight

The plight of being slight

Prettygoodgirl​(sub female) • Nov 29, 2019

I have a slight, athletic build. So far, I have only had one Dom who wasn't afraid of me. By that I mean, when it came to inflicting pain, there was only one that didn't hold back. It's extremely frustrating to meet in person and after several sessions, have the majority say they are afraid to hurt me. That's what the safe word is for. I'm just tired of being left continuously unsatisfied. Anyone else have this problem?

MasterBear​(other butch) • Nov 30, 2019

Actually- interestingly enough people of size go through something like this as do people of color.

People of size are often thought to be "not as sensative " as our smaller counterparts. As if our nerve endings are somehow buried in our belly folds.

My beloved is African American and it is a common belief that because of her skin color she can take more pain.

You are not alone here- what you go through has all sorts of manifestations.

Srbearcat​(dom male) • Dec 18, 2019

I find the taller muscular tyoe very appealing. The body often can take more and the mind is strong
I love the moment the first strike hits and the release of endorphins it promotes for bith parties.

Miki • Dec 18, 2019

I'm a 5' 1" 97# Asian. (says Miss Obvious) -- A few times have met guys who thought I was made of glass, and it can be frustrating. On the one hand if I say I want it, give it to me. On the other, someone might believe they could overdo it and be stuck with a corpse on their hands... at the worst... Consent or not, it's still a dilemma involving a trip to the can. But in these cases, a dose of understanding is in order. I don't blame the ones who want to be careful so much when I realize they have a bit to be worried about when dealing with skinny little me.

Then there's the opposite.. beasts who watched too much Japanese porn and think they can wail the fuck out of me and get surprised when they hear the Safe Word. Seldom have I had to do so, but I'm not made of stone, either. Especially when they get fisty. Broken bones and a swollen face don't fly my kite. By night I do this stuff behind closed doors, but by day I'm an independent, professional woman and looking like I got hit by a bus isn't cool at work. Questions up the ass and someone trying to help calls the cops and they ask even more questions trying to determine if I'm in an abusive relationship.

Sucks the proverbial bag when I have to announce I'm a woman who likes it rough. That has happened (no more hairy-handed brutes from then on) the freakin' cops all look at me and each other and barely stop themselves from looking disgusted and shaking their empty heads. That was several years ago and I don't work in that town any more.

Prettygoodgirl​(sub female) • Dec 22, 2019

Miki - exactly! I feel the same! I don't want to be wailed on, but I can take it and I get annoyed after I've said it multiple times that I'm okay and to keep going. Thank you for your insight!

Re: The plight of being slight

Onlinedomguy​(dom male) • Dec 22, 2019

[quote="Prettygoodgirl"]I have a slight, athletic build.

I guess we all may react differently to someone's physical makeup, but i can not imagine being concerned i might not be able to approach anyone and play with them in a way that works for both of us. Many people have limitations because of either short term or long term physical or mental issues.

Being a good Dom means learning, listening, experimenting with each subbie to find out what works for both. I can think of many things I would enjoy playing with someone with a build like you describe.

I am always concerned to apply the right kinds of touch ans play with anyone. we all have different levels of tolerance for pain and other kinds of things. To me just part of the process of getting to know someone new.