D/S volution

D/S volution

Miss Magdalena​(sub female){FreeSpirit} • Aug 24, 2024

Hi there!

For some time I've been considering how what I desire for myself has changed SO much since I first started exploring bdsm. I still identify as a submissive, but recognize that the appeal of being a service sub is just not there for me anymore the way that is used to be. By nature of what I do for a living, I have grown quite a bit and have evolved into what I think of as the next stage in my life and it has inevitably impacted me in this way too, just how I am. Because of this change, I've noticed the physical aspects of submission and the sexual pleasure I need to feel to be fulfilled in my relationship have become more of a focus for me as well. What I am curious about is if others have experienced change like this as well? Perhaps it has lead you to discover other facets of your desires that hadn't made themselves known or maybe just a shift within themselves that could be a bit harder to define.

Mags

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} • Aug 24, 2024

What I found was that with time, circumstances and different Doms, I grew and changed A LOT. I embraced that and never did like labels.

What was once a HARD no, sometimes became a HELL YESSS, and sometimes, vice versa.

Embrace your growth and changes, in my opinion, it's good and shows you're being self aware of your wants/needs.

All the best 🌷

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){I Guess } • Aug 24, 2024

My needs and wants have definitely shifted over time. 6 years ago or so my ideal situation was to be owned by a very cruel sadist who did not treat me affectionately and to also have a submissive cuck husband and we lived separately from our Master in a loving relationship. I came very close to having this, I had the master, I had the submissive, but I found that I wasn’t happy with it. So, I ended both relationships. (This is a very glazed over version).

Today, I want nothing more than to live my life in service to my Daddy. We share a very deep bond filled with lots of love and care.

I thought love wasn’t possible for me as a masochist. I thought I had to choose between being loved or being used hard. I was so lucky to find someone who showed me both are most certainly possible.

I see myself likely shifting away from deep masochism as I get older, the body simply becomes more fragile. Daddy says there are all kinds of ways to torture me and it will be just fine, so I’m excited to find out.

Miss Magdalena​(sub female){FreeSpirit} • Aug 24, 2024

Thank you so much for sharing, I suspected I was not alone in this area. It sounds like you've had quite a journey thus far and with more interesting things to come.

bdsamworld​(sub female){collared} • Aug 24, 2024

I've been in/out of dynamics and lifestyle since 2006 and I will definitely say so much of my wants and needs have changed. Some drastically. Then there are some things that haven't changed at all and I still love them as when they first happened.

Just like as we age our wants and needs change. But so do our thoughts, wishes, hopes/dreams, taste buds, so on and so forth.

I discovered about 8 months ago that Daddy Dom's are amazing. I was TERRIFIED of them for years. Seriously, a guy would identify himself as a Daddy Dom and I'd just smile and run away. Hahaha. But I gave someone a chance and he's proved me wrong.

Before that I kept getting into more and more things via experience and other people introducing me to it. Like rope, I had no idea there was a massive part of the community that loves rope and some that's all they do. And then self-suspension! 😍 Goals!

My advice to anyone in the lifestyle (beginner, experienced, etc) is to never stop learning. Attend educational events/webinars, go to the munches, and just never stop trying to learn.