Denial

Denial

GreyAuthority​(dom male){Sammy} • Dec 21, 2024

Tell me your experiences and stories with long(er) term denial. I’d love to hear both Dom and subs points of view.

My sub is getting close to being finished with a 30 day denial period and she is just starting to understand why this has been important to me and important to us. To be honest, I don’t want this period to end, as it’s been a lot of work to get here. She has done an amazing job enduring the pain and working hard to do this long of a session. I’m so proud of her!

Anyways, would love to hear your stories!

@SubmissiveSammy

B L O N D I E​(sub female) • Dec 21, 2024

I don't understand what kind of denial you're talking about. Maybe you could elaborate and explain as well as give us some more context on what you're doing and why this is so important to you.

GreyAuthority​(dom male){Sammy} • Dec 21, 2024

Thank you for taking the time to respond!

Sorry - I was referring to orgasm denial. We have been practicing it for a few months in the form of tease & denial with a mixture of solo edging, ruined orgasms, and mutual play. We started with 3 days of denial followed by a day of multiple orgasms, but the orgasms were still controlled. This schedule repeated several time and the days of denial were increased. We have worked up to her longest period, which is the current cycle of 30 days.

Reasons for practicing:
1) Sexual frustration and anticipation
2) Heightened arousal
3) Power dynamic
4) Motivational tool

While she is not allowed to cum, she has the free will to pause this as she needs. We have weekly check-ins and we always discuss how she's feeling with the denial. Some days are better than others, but her begging for orgasm has slowed down, her level of constant arousal is up, her focus on daily tasks is good, and she's enjoying being put to the test with this.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) • Dec 21, 2024

Thank you for clarifying. So what does this mean for you and why is it so important to you? Is it the greater degree of control you have over her? I'm just curious.

GreyAuthority​(dom male){Sammy} • Dec 21, 2024

The control aspect of the power exchange is a big part of it. We have agreed that her orgasms belong to me. But also, I'm trying to teach her that the orgasm should not be the sole focus of sexual pleasure. By putting her body and mind in that state of constant "denial" she can learn to feel great pleasure throughout her day, not just at orgasm time. When orgasms are allowed, they are usually much more intense, which I love. Not to mention, having her constantly sexually needy is fun too.

I hope that helps shed some insight to the "why."