PetSounds(sub gender fluid){uncollared}
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2 months ago •
Jan 11, 2025
I was in a lovely FLR for 10 years and am actively seeking the next........
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pioneer man(sub male)
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2 months ago •
Jan 11, 2025
As Steellover said, FLR can mean different things to everyone. I always tell people I speak with (regardless of the topic) to remember one "rule" of life - "Nothing Is One Size Fits All". For example: Do all of your neighbors drive the same type of vehicle that you do?
Through my years as a 24/7 live-in Femdom sub, many people have called our a relationship an FLR. Quite frankly, I think they are probably right. She controls almost everything in our relationship (there are some things she prefers that I take care of). An example of her control: My Dom decided two years ago that she liked the idea of me being naked all the time. Without hesitation or saying a word to her, I went to the bedroom, got completely naked, came back out and continued on with what I was doing. She said she loved that and I have always been naked 24/7 ever since (unless we have visitors). Whenever we go anywhere, as soon as I walk in the house, I get naked - period, without any thought - it's what she wants that matters. So you see, with the right person (that you have mutual respect with), FLR can be a wonderful experience. Be sure not to rush into anything and be sure it's with a LIGIMATE CONSENTUAL partner - watch out for scammers on the internet. GOOD LUCK!! |
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intenseoldman(dom male)
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2 months ago •
Jan 11, 2025
Steellover wrote: I think the term "FLR" means different things to different people. And it isn't necessarily always what you think it is.
I had a friend that was in a Female Led Relationship. They didn't call it that, but that's what it was. Neither he nor his partner were the least bit kinky; they were in fact both about as vanilla as communion wafers. But she was totally domineering, demanding, bossy, intrusive, haranging, and an extreme helicopter parent- to the point where she burned herself out before she burned him and her kids from mental stress. I had to laugh at this because I'm staying at my daughter's right now. Though she's not domineering, she is the boss, no question. My son in law says, "yes dear" a lot. Their's is not a toxic FLR as the one you describe. They are vanilla living in a vanilla world, so they wouldn't know they're FLR, but he'd straight up tell you she's the boss, and he's in law enforcement and comfortable with her leading the show, so, go figure. It's just you appreciate that relationships can be whatever satisfies a couple's needs and works for them, and good relationships/dynamics are beautiful no matter what flavor. T |
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MountaintopMaster
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2 months ago •
Jan 11, 2025
Here's a conundrum to ponder:
I consider myself a dominant type, but maybe not quite dominant *enough* to be an absolute, unquestioned Master who controls everything all the time. A true, total 100% sub might "get bored of me" eventually, and say I'm not taking charge enough, even though in my mind, I prefer that role compared to begin fully "submitted" to a Domme. However, I do have an achilles heel, and I will gladly "submit" (more like relinquish) that one aspect of my life to a partner, a decision-maker who can simply help me "manage" that shortcoming and help me see into my blind spot. To put it another way: I have no desire to be a submissive; I am a top and a dominant in the bedroom. I also generally prefer to be respected in everyday life, and regularly relied upon for wisdom, guidance, etc. And yet, I may still lack that one little bit of final perfection that puts me wholly in that category of being able to maintain a "total domination" dynamic for an entire lifetime... Not sure where this puts me on the scale of FLR; probably quite low, but at least somewhere on the chart, maybe? |
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House Talion(dom male)
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2 months ago •
Jan 14, 2025
Ubber-findommes ruin it for everyone else.
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DigitalLupine(sub male)
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2 months ago •
Jan 15, 2025
I can't. I need intel, not having information means that I presume the worst and then may take incorrect financial, work and food choices to deal with information I'm not aware of.
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MiddleAgedHippie(switch female)
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1 month ago •
Feb 16, 2025
My husband/cuck and I are experimenting with a FLR. We are almost a year into it, and I was initially skeptical. I am now embracing it more than I expected I would.
I now have a young Bull that I meet with on occasion and have delved into humiliation a little. I didn't think I would be into the humiliation but now find it very empowering. He has done well with falling into a submissive role. |
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1 month ago •
Feb 17, 2025
I have had a FLR in the past and grew very fond of the activities outside the bedroom. Missing FLR here in Dfw TX.
I’ll echo some previous comments that it does mean different things to different people. FLR is a handful of work to be an effective leader, it’s not for everyone. Bedroom only is whole different topic. That’s easy for most of us regardless as a sub or dominant. |
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