Getting kinky

A Minx • Feb 2, 2025

When I was young (22-ish) I began dating a guy that I did not know very well, I can't even remember how I met him come to think of it! It was very early and we had only started to get to know each other. Inexperienced young thing that I was, I naively entered into a CNC session (wasn't named that either) which seemed exciting and very taboo to me but I didn't really understand what I was getting myself into at the time. We didn't discuss the what and the how, and I stupidly did not know any better but was up to trust the process(?).

We met at his place and literally within 1/2 hr. I was like what the f*ck did I get myself into here... in that moment my soul cried out to me. He was hellbent on overtaking and forcefully having his way with me, we had not even had any sex up to that point. I broke scene (I was super freaked out but made sure that I did not show that), I firmly said that I decided that this was NOT for me and that I needed to go. He seemed equally surprised and blurted out, "I thought (operative word here being THOUGHT) you had a fantasy of wanting to be raped?!" I most certainly did NOT and never even discussed anything like that as we had just starting dating! I said that a friend was waiting for me (not true) but I continued keeping my cool and got the hell out of there, I was so very shaken to my core.

I vowed then and there that I would be clear in my communication when it came to sex for likes, dislikes, limits (hard and soft) and that someone would know where I was if I ever went somewhere with a person I didn't know well, what time I would be expected back and how to get in touch or they be made available in case I needed some help (to get out of a situation if I was ever to find myself in one like that again). Soooo, CNC does not feel like a fit for me, I would not consider it again especially after that experience of feeling absolutely no control.

That guy? Turns out that months later he landed on the front page of the local newspaper for a fraudulent scam he perpetuated on an executive team of a large financial institution in the area. He somehow weaseled his way into obtaining a high level job then stole hundreds of thousands before getting caught and going straight to jail. Yikes! I felt like a very lucky one and have made much wiser choices after THAT one.

Cello Trance​{for You} • Feb 2, 2025

I’m just glad you were able to get out of there and stay safe.