Attending my first party

I agree with what everyone else has stated above.
Each party I have been to has explained the rules to everyone and saftey before the party begins.
In regards to meeting a beautiful Domme please remember that although you are a submissive you are equal to everyone there, unless agreed apon with someone. In saying that being respectful towards others in the lifestlye is always key but that dosnt make you below them.
Have fun and remember to be safe.

This is going to sound harsh but I think you might need to take down your expectations just a notch or two. Slow down enjoy the journey. Your trying to race to the end.

I'm not saying to hurt to you but to help you, get what you want. Yes by all means go chat so someone you find interesting but keep in mind this Domme knows NOTHING about you. This is your first play party so it will be the FIRST time she is seeing you. You also have no posts here on site and no presence of who you are as a person, so I'm going to say "new" to Femdom too? She doesn't know you online (?) or in person (?). You are a complete stranger to HER

You are planning to walk up to a Dominant woman you don't know and ask her the eviqiulent in BDSM to vanilla of (going to be blunt here) "will you fuck me" (often without the orgasm at parties)..Just like the real world, that might not go down the best with a woman you've known for five minutes. Can it happen? Yeah! will it happen?...well most Dommes will want to know about YOU as a PERSON first but granted we are not all the same. We didn't all get pressed out by the same cookie cutter at the factory so some of us do work differently.

Chances are if she plays at that club, she has a list of people she plays with and list (in her head) of people she thinks, she'd match with to play. When I play at clubs I tend to play with the same group. If I play with someone "new" they are not new to the club. Also sometimes when I plan to play at a club I will spend a lot of time working out my scene. That scene is tailored to my needs and that of the submissive..that doesn't leave me a lot of room for "casual ..blunt again..walk ins" and yes if she wants to play with you, she will do all the consent stuff FIRST (if she doesn't you need the door marked EXIT)

if you want to have the best time go to play party with the idea of meeting people, watching some good scenes and building a social network for BDSM. Get a feel for people. Also you don't know her and your offering yourself up to her based on looks? You have no idea of her style. Her likes, dislikes, if you even match. Granted it is casual play but it is still not something to take lightly. If your going to the play party with the sole idea of getting action/play, maybe a pay to play situation might be better for your needs. Again, not saying to hurt you...just trying to help you get what you want.

Relax slow down. Contact the venue/host if known and ask for details. They will provide you a dress code, time of attendance and expectations. You'll have a good time if you relax and go without expectations. It is hard to be disappointed when don't expect much. If more happens, FANTASTIC! You had a wonderful night instead of a good night. Honest ,relax, enjoy the journey too. Life doesn't come with enough FIRSTS and your going wreck yours , stressing over details. You've got this!

Wow thank you so much for that reply- blunt but fair 😄 very helpful.