Actual master

Actual master

scarletscars​(masochist female) • Jun 21, 2025

I feel like it's genuinely so hard to find an actual master online that respects your boundaries but still is able to keep the mode going. I'm big on degrading and humiliation so that's always one of my non negotiables being no praise. The people that don't praise you don't respect you. The people that follow your limits always throw in a "good girl" or "baby" and just ruins it. Maybe it's just me. I don't want to see your dick and I don't want to show my face. I provide photos and videos all I need is either commands from a blacked out screen or type that shit out. At this point I might as well just save myself the time and do it myself.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jun 21, 2025

You shouldn't see the toolsbi use to make you scream and moan, hence why you're bound and blindfolded before anything else. If you're lucky you'd hear things removed from the tool chest.

TwinkleEyes​{n/a} • Jun 22, 2025

The Masters that I’ve met over the years do not call themselves by any title. Nor would they behave in such a way. I have found that finding a match in kink can be more difficult than the “vanilla” world.

Also, consider that as an exchange of services it may be that a “Master” needs to say “good girl”. It is a give and take of sorts. Some of our deepest darkest desires need a balance. Often enough it is small moments of tenderness. These things should be talked about in negotiations before hand. I also believe in having discussions after about what went right and wrong.

Give it time and learn more while looking. To put more knowledge about kink inside your brain, is like putting more tools in your tool box. Talk with as many people as you can. Even those you may disagree with. Or don’t like. There is wisdom to be found amongst the piles of shit pretenders.

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Jun 22, 2025

I don't get it.

You are looking for a online only M/s relationship where you know nothing about the M and only want degrading orders typed orders?

You could do Chatgdp for that.

SavageLuminescence​(sub female)​{~Umber~} • Jun 24, 2025

ChatGPT would make an amazing Master for you. It sounds like you want a very one-sided relationship and have zero interest actually serving the needs of another. Perhaps searching for a Sadist or Degrader might be a better search, but any dynamic is going to ask things if you too- if you’re with a human being.

LoveandDevotion​(sub female)​{Taken} • Jun 24, 2025

I'm with the others, it sounds like you don't want a real person to connect to, so why not AI?

It's funny though because I want(ed) the exact opposite of you. Degradation and humiliation are hard limits for me. I want love and commitment and in real life meeting. Nothing revs me up more than "good girl." But I was also searching for a Master (and found him! yay) so you can see from the D perspective how that'd be confusing for the D types, that such different s types are looking, you know?

So if you do want to connect with a real person, have some grace, because it may "ruin" things for you but how would they know that if they can't read minds, when such different subs exist? You have to have patience and communication to deal with people...

Or if that's too much, go for AI. Not a bad suggestion.

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Jun 26, 2025

But a Actual Master Starts when you put value and respect in your life fine to want to have desires and needs but nothing can happen of a drop of a hat.
Intimacy skills build trust, understanding, and connection, leading to more fulfilling relationships.
Improved Communication:

If you want to find respect someone to understand you have to put value and take your time building a connection allowing it to grow. First its getting to know someone on a deeper level getting in the mind and sync in to the soul and the rest comes when they simulate and arouse your mind.

Takes a bit of time getting to know someone but go with the flow and let it grow, it will work.

Even if you keep it online or want a first life ltr but you will have to change some things if you want to find a grown soul. The fast route will lead to someone who only wants to get off but won't respect you or your limits - it can leave you hurt. But remember you deserve respect and value, it goes both ways be the way you want to be treated. Sex is great but the dynamic is a bond of love and trust and sex has to be someone that clicks with you in sacred love.



Sex is great but when you want someone to hold you, care for you and after care and person that shows love with the Dynamic and can have great love with. Me and my Partner cuddle and stuff more than sex, we have great sex but we do more than that but built a connection over time that for us makes a great dynamic of doing the passion and desires we share together.

Once you grow a bond with someone then the whole bringing up dynamic can be in place you bring them into your world find what you like and don't like but its a two way street you please each other and share the desire of healing and growing more with passion in this bond. Practice safety and learn safe and sane. But someone can't walk in your life and just give it to you it has to start with peace , growth , healing the humiliation is when you find someone that will take you with your passion but it has to be more then sex hanging out cuddling and waking up next to someone and laughing and traveling.

Emotional Intimacy: Sharing your deepest feelings, vulnerabilities, and thoughts with someone you trust without fear of judgment. This can involve discussing your past traumas, hopes, dreams, and fears.
Physical Intimacy: Any form of physical closeness and touch, like hugging, cuddling, kissing, or holding hands. While sex can be a part of physical intimacy, it's not synonymous with it.
Intellectual Intimacy: Sharing ideas, opinions, and engaging in stimulating conversations where you feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and perspectives, even if you disagree.
Experiential Intimacy: Sharing experiences and activities together, whether it's exploring common interests, trying new things, or simply spending time doing things together.
Spiritual Intimacy: Sharing your spiritual beliefs, practices, and finding connection through shared spiritual experiences.
Intimacy is crucial for healthy relationships because it fosters:
Connection and Communication: Intimacy helps build a strong foundation for connection and open communication between people.
Feeling Understood: Intimacy allows people to feel understood, accepted, and cared for within their relationships.
Personal Growth: Developing intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to be your unfiltered self around others.
Intimacy can also lead to benefits like:
Increased relationship satisfaction
Improved physical health
Enhanced mental health

Intimacy skills are practices that foster closeness and connection in relationships. They involve being vulnerable, expressing needs, and creating opportunities for meaningful interaction. These skills can be applied to various types of relationships, not just romantic ones, and can lead to greater understanding, trust, and fulfillment.

Key Intimacy Skills:
Vulnerability:
Sharing feelings, fears, and needs with another person, even when it feels risky.
Open Communication:
Expressing thoughts and feelings clearly and honestly, while also actively listening to the other person.
Acceptance:
Acknowledging and appreciating the other person for who they are, flaws and all.
Constructive Conflict Resolution:
Addressing disagreements in a healthy and productive way, focusing on understanding rather than blame.
Quality Time:
Making a conscious effort to spend meaningful time with the other person, free from distractions.
Affection:
Expressing physical and emotional affection through words, gestures, and touch.
Gratitude:
Expressing appreciation for the other person and the relationship.
Benefits of Developing Intimacy Skills:
Stronger Relationships:
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Intimacy skills build trust, understanding, and connection, leading to more fulfilling relationships.
Improved Communication:
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Open and honest communication is essential for intimacy, and practicing these skills can make it easier to express needs and desires.
Increased Emotional Well-being:
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Feeling connected and understood by others can improve overall emotional health and well-being.
Greater Personal Growth:
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Vulnerability and self-awareness are key components of personal growth, and intimacy skills can encourage these qualities.
More Joy and Fulfillment:
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When we feel close to others, we experience greater joy and satisfaction in life.
By practicing these skills, individuals can create deeper, more meaningful connections with those they care about, leading to greater happiness and well-being.

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Jun 26, 2025

Best sex was one I am with now soul flame that was built with intimacy skills, became sacred sex with kink, the one person we share life with, we share are desires and dreams. We do it 5 times a day but we cuddle a lot he hold me tight and we love waking up next to each other. He loved my curves but he seen how I carried myself and my lovely spirit and aura and mind and joy and having grace. He fell for me for just being myself nothing of society. He likes all of me the original nothing of vanity. He is for my heart and everything I come with as I do heart to heart, soul to soul. In for the entirety of love, spirit and soul.

chattel​(sub female) • Jun 27, 2025

Pretty rare to find a Master that doesn't praise a good and pleasing slave. To sone extent i share your desire for little praise but not to the extent it sounds like you want to go. My experience has shown that to be somewhat more common in sadists but still not very common. I don't play online so I don't know if that makes what you seek even more of a unicorn.

TheWhorelock​(dom male) • Jun 27, 2025

That's not a Master, that's a kink dispenser. You probably are looking for more of a degrader/Sadist. As a person who is interested in mastery as a practice, I read your ad and immediately thought you've no interest in being of service or following my lead.