The Weight of Wanting

The Weight of Wanting

tictackid​(sub female) • Jun 18, 2025

Being a plus size submissive means carrying more than just the weight of my body — it means carrying the fear that I’ll never be enough for the one I ache to serve.

I give everything. My obedience. My softness. My hunger to please. I kneel with reverence, I ache with need, I offer my whole self — and still, I wonder.

Will I ever be truly wanted?

I’m on a weight loss and fitness journey, trying to connect more deeply to my body. I want to feel strong, desirable, worthy in my own skin. But some days, it feels like I’m chasing something just out of reach — not just a goal, but acceptance. A place where I am chosen without hesitation. Desired without condition. Owned with pride.

There’s a sensuality in submission that burns so hot in me — and yet sometimes I feel like I exist in the shadows. Like no matter how wet I get from his voice, or how fast I rush to obey, I’ll still be seen as too much, or not enough.

And that hurts. Quietly, deeply, constantly.

But I’m still here. Still kneeling. Still giving. Still becoming.

To every submissive who’s ever doubted their worth because of their body — I see you. I am you.

And you are worthy of being desired, just as you are.
Even if you have to remind yourself every damn day

EmmaSong​(sub female) • Jun 18, 2025

This gives me inspiration and I am so proud of you. Thank you.

Miki • Jun 19, 2025

Wanted as you describe? Always.

Respected? That depends on how you view yourself and how you expect your partners to see you.

Nothing else I can say.

subsmind​(sub female) • Jun 19, 2025

Thank you for your words as I am also a plus size submissive.
It does play into the mindset of truly being wanted.

tincup​(masochist male) • Jun 19, 2025

It is hard to understand the complicated person inside. More images will appear on my web page, but the one there suggests all the ragged intentions and work arounds one goes through in maintaining self or multiple-selfs. As the tree strives onward to find nurishment so do we. Yes, all the tangible attributes can seem invisible but putting self out there is worth it.

Mk0821​(switch male) • Jun 19, 2025

I'm honestly saddened to hear your struggle with how some others perceive you. But I have a lot of respect that you share these feelings and your viewpoint with others, especially if it can help others who may be struggling the same. Hopefully it provides some good, thank you.

I personally think there is beauty in everyone. No matter their size or their shape. If someone can not look past such minor details about you, are they really someone who appreciates you to the quality you deserve?

Either way, I wish you the best of luck on your personal journey and hope that you find someone you deserve.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Aug 20, 2025

While I do not necessarily struggle with my weight, I do have a disability that may be permanent at this point. Drop foot. It affects my mobility and grace in movement which is very important to me in the way I serve.

It almost feels like a sliver of my most intimate self has been sliced away and I wonder if I will be good enough to serve when I cannot achieve perfection. BUT perfection is boring.

In the end, the most important relationship we can ever have is the one we have with ourselves.


I wish you the best for your journey.

SweetHolly​(sub female) • Aug 20, 2025

Thank you for your post.
I feel the same way. I feel that like the physical gets in the way of getting to know me.
Add in my age (46) and it feels impossible to find someone to really connect with. One or the other tends to send them running. I try to stay positive but it gets hard.
Hugs and support to you.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Aug 20, 2025

Please don’t take this as me trying to be fresh. Just, I can feel your genuine desire and sincerity coming through and I just have this feeling that the person you deserve is going to see you, really see you for all that you are and it will have been worth the wait.

I hope you never loose hope. He may be just around the corner.

All my best