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2 months ago •
Oct 27, 2025
General advice for a new dom
I am very new to this. I have someone that I am seeing in real life and someone that I am just texting with. Both are submissive.
But I am unsure how to play with them. I would really appreciate some ideas both for real life scenarios and texting. |
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MissBonnie(dom female){oz}
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2 months ago •
Oct 27, 2025
A simple place to begin is with a kink negotiation checklist — a fairly in-depth one. Have both of your submissives fill it out separately. Then compare where your interests intersect. That intersection is your shared playground — your current boundary.
From there, you build your early scenes within that space. As those scenes are refined and trust develops, you start introducing rules, rituals, and protocols that reinforce that foundation. Over time, as those elements become natural, you can begin to explore the edges of those boundaries together — always through discussion and consent. Wanting a ready-made “play-by-play” list won’t serve you well long-term. It might get you started, but it won’t help you grow, and it doesn’t create the structure of training, which is what most submissives truly crave. Instead, think of each scene as part of an ongoing process. After a session — whether it’s real life or texting — reflect and take notes: What went well? What could be improved? What did you enjoy, and what didn’t work for you? How did the submissive feel about each of those points? Once you have that feedback, build your next scene around those improvements and areas of growth. That’s where creativity starts to flourish. For example, let’s say you had an oral training session. Ask yourself: How was their control? How well did they use their mouth or tongue? What aspects could be improved? Then turn those answers into training opportunities. Maybe you set small tasks — like licking from a bowl, practicing endurance with textures or tastes, or using objects to work on depth and control. Each exercise becomes a building block for your next session. If you keep evolving this way, you’ll never run out of ideas — because every new scene grows naturally from the last. By scene fifteen, you’ll have developed real depth, skill, and dynamic — not just a list of borrowed ideas, but something uniquely yours. |
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MissBonnie(dom female){oz}
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2 months ago •
Oct 27, 2025
oops I didn't read your profile and thought you are male my apologies. I seen "dom" and assumed "Dom" not "Domme" My bad
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House Talion(dom male)
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2 months ago •
Oct 29, 2025
Texting is easy, give them tasks to perform based on what you want them to do as comparednto the different fetishes they should be working on wether for your pleasure or theirs.
IRL works the same, but its more hands on. Enjoy the time together and keep in mind that not only are you in control, but its suposed to be of mutual enjoyment. Don't let when you do be one sided |
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