What about real?

What about real?

material​(sub male) • Nov 21, 2025

What ever happened to actually doing what you say you will?
Why so many fakes and wanna bes? I know, this sounds harsh but the truth is people don't think before they speak. That's just my opinion

devastationslave​(sub female) • Nov 21, 2025

I think they think. I think they fail to follow through, and/or be honest with themselves about what it is they want and don't want.

Everything is disposable is society recently, temporary and an immediate gratification. That creates a void, and an easy path to walk away from.

What is lacking is the ability or willingness of people to self reflect, be honest with themselves and project that outwardly. It makes making connections that are meaningful and lasting difficult, and deep trust even harder. Since this lifestyle is built on those foundations, it creates a struggle for those committed to it.

Just my opinion.

House Talion​(dom male) • Nov 21, 2025

The human condition promotes many to scam the few by any means available.

devastationslave​(sub female) • Nov 21, 2025

Society is supposed to check it, not support it.

darlingdiana​(sub female)​{Master Ron} • Nov 21, 2025

I used to struggle with this often and was so sensitive. There is a very large difference in real time and life than online.
Online or any chat platform is in itself is not a “real” place. It is not wise to be vulnerable openly, because we don’t truly know who or what people are beyond the screen names. In particular, this type of site can be predatory or harmful if precautions are not in place. I would say a level of trust can be formed here but not necessarily a binding or bonded trust. It takes a long time to know a stranger online. There are surely enough Netflix specials currently, that end poorly/horribly, even after meeting. I have met a handful of wonderful people here i speak with regularly and have gotten to know them slowly over years. I have physically met 2 in total and 1 was a friendship only. The other will be this December. Again this took 3+ years of talking and even upon meeting, its a whole new kettle of fish. Safety is still in place. That is in real time conversations and evolutions that may or may not be becoming. I overall have positive hopes, but nothing riding or banking on meeting. Nothing will be lost. “Prepare for the worst and hope for the best”.
People have genuine feelings and perhaps even intentions at times. The reality is nothing works perfectly or via conversation on the internet. If its an agreed, identity trusted, or protected, fun virtual fling- there is not much to loose. People often won’t gamble any loss or emotional pain. It takes time to learn, because words can be powerful. It does not mean the actions behind them will be. I highly recommend finding your in person community and exploring- it’s truly lovely, inspiring, engaging and in REAL time. It is the odd and rare time (1%) to discover someone online that is “real”. Even then you will see after 5 or more years of couples -truths come out, people get hurt. It is impossible to land on the right foot when beginning on the wrong one.
Best,
darlingdiana

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Nov 28, 2025

I have read your profile. I noticed that you used
“real slave” to describe yourself a few times. So, I have to wonder are all these fakes and wanna bees people who don't practice slavery the same way you do?

Are you just flexing?

As someone who has been in service from a very young age, I have met my share of people who thought they were willing, ready, and able but were not, predators, those looking for a quick fix and everything in between.

Some people are into BDSM for the wrong reasons. That's why you pick and choose.
The best way to meet people is not on the internet. It is in real life. Even then, it is a crap shoot.

However, no one will ever be able to convince me that slaves ( like me and others) who believe hard limits are to be respected are not true slaves. We come from a place of dignity and respect, both for ourselves and our well-being and for the ones we serve.


That’s my opinion and how I live.

material​(sub male) • Nov 28, 2025

i don't believe i am just flexing. And i don't wish to imply that hard limits are not for slaves . What i seek is a dominant that understands the roll and takes it seriously. Such a master knows what limits he must follow and does so without restrictions from anyone. No i don't believe a true slave should limit its master in any way. i do believe a slave like this one should, after it has chosen to serve, do just that, serve. Everyone is different. Every situation is different. If it works don't fix it. But don't lie to yourself or anyone else. In my opinion,(like ass holes everyone has one) acceptance of the self is the first step.