Gen Z Femsub thoughts

I just saw someone else post about gathering thoughts on how gen z malesubs feel about being a sub these days. It peaked my interest and made me wonder what the fem side of this looked like.

I feel like we are pretty ambiguous these days on how we feel (as a society) about submissive females.
I feel like there’s both a rise in “trad wife” mentalities and “liberal” women with there being quite a lot of tension between the two.

As a sub fem myself i wouldn’t wanna admit to anyone in my personal life (except my partner) that i like submitting beyond just the bedroom. Conversations i’ve had around the topic with my age group tend to end with things like “i’d never cook him dinner every night, im not his slave!!” and even straight up misandry sometimes.

Obviously i don’t judge them, if they prefer a more 50/50 split of domestic tasks and other forms of “submission” etc. then that’s entirely their chose. But i do wonder why there is such a sharp rejection of it, especially since I have found it so insanely freeing.

I look forward to hearing other peoples thoughts!

I think the sharp rejection comes from a couple things.
1. The fact that there is a faction of people that wants it to be mandatory for everyone.
2. There are a lot of men who are simply incompetent man children, who don’t cook or clean because they can’t.
3. Some women just hate cooking and only see it as a chore.

I assume the interactions you’re referring to are with non-kinky folks?

As I see it, the rejection often comes from the fact that not so long ago — and even in some places today — this role was not an option for women, but an expectation. A “female duty” rooted in pure misogyny, ableism, and a rigid gender-role duality.

Within BDSM, we understand what an M/s exchange entails because we have built a language around it: social awareness, emotional clarity, support… in a few words, a community. Outside of that context, though, people may read it through a very different lens because they lack those resources.

What you do and what these other people are saying are not mutually exclusive. It’s more that you’re speaking from different frameworks, yours being BDSM.

Thank you for sharing this with us. 🌹