Why subs with trauma feel scared trusting

I feel like on here it’s good to have conversation, but it gets to a point where you don’t know if the persons gonna be nice or not or if they have only sexual intentions. Like for me I’ve realized I pull away when I feel that or if I’m scared it’ll get to that point. As a little it’s hard to see when ppls intentions are genuine or if its for show, and wondering just scares me because I can’t be in a situation again. How do other subs deal with this or what do you do to help with your anxiety about it? My regression means so much to me and I can’t give it to anybody even if it’s involuntary. I love being a sub and doing that with my partner but I also very much crave the connection beyond sex, I crave the intimacy and genuine connection, but now I just end it before I could even see because I’m scared I’ll be hurt badly again. I wanna feel okay regressing on my own, but due to my abuse I seek that comfort now, and I hate it so much. It’s been years too, like three now and I know it takes time

I really feel this in the depths of my soul. People will fake their intentions and because of our past trauma it can be hard to see through the facade and to know what is genuine. Hopefully we found what we are truly looking for ❤️

I think this site allows you to ask the right questions and time to see if the person is genuine. In the real world people pretend to be something they aren't only for sex as well