Advice to the so called Doms

WTF, I have talked to you like 5 mins and you are going to Dom me? I'm a person, and you don't own me. This is happening, at least with me.

Are there other subs that this happens to?

I want to start by sincerely apologizing on behalf of the Dom/mes out there who actively reject these harmful stereotypes.

You are completely valid in how you feel. You are a human being before you are a submissive, and you deserve to be treated with fundamental respect. It is incredibly frustrating how common this transactional behavior has become. No one should ever be treated as a dispenser for someone else's fantasies, or expected to perform without any consideration for their own thoughts, feelings, and desires.

While this behavior is sadly too common across the community, please remember that not everyone operates this way. It takes time to weed out the bad actors, but you deserve a dynamic built on genuine mutual respect. I hope this stops happening to you, and to anyone else in your position.

~GA 💕

Thank you very much! You are very kind

Welcome! Snacks and refreshments are on the table to right. You can find the block button below their message and at the botton of their profile. Sadly, it happens to almost everyone. They are called Instadoms and Instasubs.

Love snacks and refreshments!

Thank you, I will definately be using that button.

All day every day but it is indeed why the block button exists. It doesn’t just happen here either it’s across all kink platforms and highly irritating. They apparently read too many dark romance novels and 50shades of what NOT to do and ran with the toxic ideas. We are indeed people behind the title and we have thoughts, feelings and real emotions. It has been like this for quite some time (at least the past 20 years on fetlife which has gone down the drain in recent years). Happy to be a sounding board if you need one. Just keep blocking them though for your own sanity 🙏❤️

As I often say, most of the people here are only Dom’s if their name is Dominic! Sorry that you are being harassed

I have had that happen.

Even though I put "Not Looking" in prominent typeface and size on my profile quite some time ago yet the Instadoms still bubble up to the surface.

I never needed to block any of them, though. Once they figure out that I really am "Not Looking" they disappear.

I have replied to them politely, assuring them that I ain't changing my mind and so far no problems.

The Insta____ issue is probably common on these kinds of sites. Usually they are new or just curious and don't know how this shit works.

Chin up. Like a case of intestinal gas, it shall indeed pass.