Sudden influx of subbies

I agree with everyone on this post.
Everyone has a good point.
Spotting the genuine people can be tough when the fakers ruin it for other people that are trying to trust and build a last foundation or relationship.

I don't understand why they aren't just contacting their local BDSM club. Trying to train an 18 yo. kid over the internet is WAY beyond me. Good luck to the rest of you.

There currently is no local BDSM club in my city. Probably a true situation for a lot of people.

Media literacy and intelligent internet usage is also declining in our youth. They lack the skills to find what they are looking for if it is not in the AI overviews of their search engines. "Go find a kink club" is not nearly so easy as it was ten or fifteen years ago, just because of how infantilized the internet has become. Wait, maybe sanitized is the right word, but both sort of fit.

Really? More subs? I guess if the sub:Dom ratio went up on the sub side, a dom could be more particular.
At any rate, isn't more membership on this site good?
I welcome change. It's refreshing to see something/someone new. I don't understand the scrutiny and resistance. Sure there's bots, fakes and the uninitiated not knowing quite what they're looking for and hoping for someone to show them... but that's always been.
So has the grumbling and complaining.
Have I noticed more subs and more "particular" Doms?
No, not really... not much ever changes around here.

I must add, there has also been an influx in new young Dominants. Whether they will last or not is another thing. Young people are privy to instant gratification and some will leave and come back later. Another few will take it serious grow, eat, sleep, and drink bdsm. I am grateful they are messaging me and trying their hand… even proud. Firstly, its adorable and secondly, it always flattering to have passes made by the younger new community. Now to be clear, i am a mature lady and i do need an experienced Master and preferably older Dominant. But it appears i stand by my initial inkling. The newer generation is coming aboard and if we don’t teach them and or welcome them we are not very good role models now are we? We were young once too and just as arrogant, impulsive and outspoken. 🎶 “Hey! Teacher! Leave them kids alone!…. All in all we were all just bricks in the wall” 🎶

I actually like this; as a young and new sub, I obviously had a lot of misconceptions about things and a lot to learn.

My fear is that a lot of the new dominants, specifically the female ones, are just "in it for the money" and have exactly one kink- that being "financial domination." I may sound jaded and cynical, and for that I apologize, but a previous (and now-defunct) BDSM site I used to frequent was full of such people. Hopefully these people are sincere and looking for a meaningful connection, or at least, meaningful dialog and sharing.

[quote="Steellover"]I actually like this; as a young and new sub, I obviously had a lot of misconceptions about things and a lot to learn.

My fear is that a lot of the new dominants, specifically the female ones, are just "in it for the money" and have exactly one kink- that being "financial domination." I may sound jaded and cynical, and for that I apologize, but a previous (and now-defunct) BDSM site I used to frequent was full of such people. Hopefully these people are sincere and looking for a meaningful connection, or at least, meaningful dialog and sharing.[/quote

You don’t sound jaded or cynical at all. I cannot even imagine this type of relationship/dynamic. If Dom’s charged money, i would loose all interest and probably consider a convent. Some male subs LOVE their paid Dommes and the arrangements. It just how you are built and yes, hopefully we have more unpaid Dommes to even it out in the future.