Chat behavior and new people not reading the rules

This is not quite technical, more like meta discussion, plus it's meant to be read by admins. Hope it's okay.

Yes I'm myself fairly new to this site. Yes perhaps it would be more appropriate if a site veteran posted this.

From what I've noticed so far when it comes to overall opinion/temperature of the chat:
* The lobby is supposed to be used for chill conversations about life, kink and stuff. No seeking (there is a separate site section for this), no sexting, no asking for sexting, no random use of honorifics (generally frowned upon in BDSM community?), no domming/subbing people (especially when done without consent).
* DM-ing without asking beforehand is generally disliked.
* Jumping into people DMs only to dom/sub to them without their consent is a big no.

Do these points align with your views of what the chat is/how it's supposed to be used? If yes, perhaps you would be willing to make some changes/clarifications to chat rules? The current chat rules are good, it's just that they're bit more general. From what I saw so far with new waves of people the chat users have to explain these specific points again and again.

Then there is overall "reading the rules" part. I feel like most people just skip them by clicking "Okay" automatically. Cause I admit I did it myself when I joined.

Maybe the first few times when a person is joining the chat:
* Show a big red message "Please make sure to read the rules above" near "Okay" button, block the button itself for a few seconds (with a visible countdown)?
* Or make people check boxes near each rule?

But I understand this might be annoying and drive people away from the site. So then how about this as an alternative?
AFTER joining the chat make so the server shows only to them at the very top a chat-like message with short-hand rules. Something along the lines of:
"Hello [name], the lobby is for chill respectful conversations as equals, no [seeking](link to the site seeking section)/sexting. Ask permission before DM-ing or engaging into online play. Refer to full chat rules here: [link]"