Advice to the so called Doms

Yes! It’s sadly a universal experience that—let’s be honest— usually comes from male “doms.” I think a lot of the think the BDSM and kink community = easy sex. They’re just a bunch of weirdos!

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They don’t care to read a profile before reaching out. Rarely have any substance to their own profiles. Mostly just dick pics. I don’t usually respond. But have to laugh when they get upset. Not realizing that I don’t owe them a damn thing.

Truthfully,
this type of situation happens when a Dom ,, with a good understanding of a submissive approach , is being pushed out while trying to establish a chat connection with some of these so called submissives and real submissives !
And these so called subs / real subs ,, end up accepting a chat connection with these so called Doms where they are being mistreated !
So here we go ,with the outcome of misjudgements !

Where is the accountability of the Doms in question? Because as written, you are placing ALL the blame on the submissives for the actions of the Dom....THIS! IS! WRONG!

A person may be *A* submissive, but that doesn't give a Doms the right to dom them. It requires consent!

My point is ,
The judgement that pushed away the good Dom and created the opening and let the bad dom in , is not anyone else's fault then the one who let them in ,because of poor judgment.
Have you read any of these profiles ?
Lots of them are not even real subs ,to begin with and wants to blame others for their mistakes .
You use bait to catch a fish ,you think a wrong fish won't get in ?
You will get all sorts of fish and you need to get them out by looking for the right fish you do want to keep .
If you keep them all to cook ,for sure you get a bad taste in your mouth , because all these are not fish for eating .
And you go back to the place you got the bait from to complain that you was given the wrong bait and got some bad fish !
So who do we blame ?
Fish bait is fish bait and you need to watch for the fish you catch to be the right one to cook !

I just read you post. It was hilarious!! So true!

Here is one of the bad situations,
You start talking to someone, you don't explain to this person that it is a get to know each other first time chat .
If you do that, he for sure will not even try to go in his dominant act and if he not listening, cut him off and stop talking to him .
He will for sure leave you be .
If you get in to deep chat ,he thinks he got you and start his BS !
Don't give him that free pass !
Is the same with these so called submissives, you cut them off and end of the story, get the hell out ,ain't none for you here !
I have seen it all in my years of being a Dominant , got in to these BS situations and it is no jokes !

They got a hand 🤚, they can use it! A 0 brain equals a penis small mind . No brain cells, No dom, just a douche with juice lives In mom and dad's basement. Put on tracker let it loose with the twig and berry’s tied.

Let me clue you in on something....

EVERY submissive on here has had the following experience, which is the experience (I felt) the OP was addressing:

A message arrives in your inbox from someone you do not know. It read as follows: "Hello Slave, I read your profile and you are the one for me. You will address me as Master. I require you to strip down and send me a full body photograph so that I may see my property."

You may think I'm joking, but I'm not. We ALL have received some variation of what I wrote.

And those are called "insta-Doms", a phrase that this site has coined and is a perfect description. Now a caveat is required here. Some people may want that. It may fall under the realm of "humiliation" play or whatever. I'm not the one to ask since that a hard limit for me. I CAN tell you that more times than not, it's considered skeevy and gross.

I don't know what you are on about, but your original post had the submissive shoulder ALL the blame. That's not fair and it's not right.

You may think that some people here are fakes, however, YOU are not the end all and be all of BDSM (no one is). There is no litmus test for someone's validity in this lifestyle. You don't get to judge who someone is or isn't in and of themselves.

You can ONLY judge if they are right FOR YOU.

Do you see the difference?