Advice on asking my partner to dom me

I have a partner that I really love.. I have wanted to be dominated for a long time and have always been sacred to ask him. Sometimes he's a little dominate during sex anyway but I want to start leaning toward TPE at least in the bedroom. Possibly as a lifestyle. Any advice on how to approach a conversation like this?

You could start by bringing up a general discussion about BDSM in wider popular culture and asking what he thinks about it. Sound him out about what he thinks of the different roles and if any of them appeal to him and in what ways. That will naturally lead him to ask you the same question. You could start by telling him what appeals to you about the idea of being submissive in the bedroom. You can explain how certain things he does gives you that feeling and how much it excites and arouses you and how much you would enjoy it if he did more of it. Then you could maybe lean into suggesting that the two of you start to learn more about BDSM in general and maybe experimenting with things like bondage and spanking. Just a thought. I hope it works out for you.

This sounds like a great way to go about it. I appreciate that

Definitely approach it at a high level. You indicated you were too scared to broach the subject so that means the topic hasn't really come up.

Be open minded and prepared for any response. Being more dominant in the sack does not necessarily mean he's into BDSM as a lifestyle choice. When I have been with men they all preferred to run the show, but only some of them wanted to get into my being a maso-girl.

So, it could turn out the way you hope or maybe not. Hopefully it does.

Since you love him dearly that means other facets of the relationship work out well. If he isn't into BDSM, or will take time to think about it, don't lose sight of the other facets of your relationship that work very well.

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I wrote the above because I have seen posts over my years in here asking about that particular Catch 22.

Person B isn't down with kink and BDSM, but everything else is wonderful, should Person A put down ultimatums or ditch the relationship, or accept the relationship sans the spice. It's a tough choice.

Best of Luck

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