Permission

A recent observation got me on the subject of Permission.

Now in your stereotypical D/s relationship, the D is the one who grants a given permission. But my question is when should this permission be granted? Is it up the the s type to ask for said permission before they can do a task? Or, should the D be looking forward and grant the permission before the s realizes it will be needed?

Discuss:

I hate assuming; discuss everything. Communicate how you & your partner want to handle things in your own way. Theres nothing less sexy than a misunderstanding in intimacy.

It doesn't really matter how others do it, but for me, I like to be asked/begged for permissions personally that way A: i know they really want it and arent just following my suggestion and B: its hot to me 🤷‍♂️

but this is something I discuss with my partner beforehand. You CAN discuss boundaries, consents, and rules in a flirtatious way so that you are covering your bases without ruining the mood.

Discussion and getting to know the "s". The "s" may tell you a, b, and c they are okay with and then something unexpected comes up and You can tell it is a want at that moment. Of course they would have to ask permission but the pleasure of holding it away for a little and watching the reaction is hot.

My answer is yes the "s" type should ask for permission