Introduction/Advice

Hi everyone, 😊
I’m new here and still pretty new to the BDSM community overall. I’ve spent some time learning the basics, but I know there’s a lot more depth to it, and I want to approach it in a thoughtful and informed way. In my everyday life, I’m a very independent person. At the same time, I’ve come to understand that I’m naturally drawn to submission—but in a way that feels intentional and meaningful to me. For me, it’s not about losing myself, but about trust, connection, and choosing to give that part of myself to the right person. Because of that, I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d rather take my time, continue learning, and understand what healthy, respectful dynamics really look like. Right now, I’m mainly interested in: Learning from experienced people, understanding boundaries, communication, and safety, having respectful conversations and genuine connections. I’m not interested in being pressured or jumping straight into a dynamic. Consent, trust, and mutual understanding matter a lot to me. If anyone has advice for someone starting out, or things you wish you knew early on, I’d really appreciate hearing it. Thanks for reading 🖤

The main thing is to do your research methodically. Take your time figuring out what works best fo you. Never let anyone tell you what is best for you - that's for you and you alone to decide.

As a Femdom sub for years, my Dom & I have attended many events meeting people from different lifestyles, swingers, nudists, etc. The common theme has been mutual respect in any dynamic. Stay away from porn & movies - they give you a tainted view that's nowhere near reallity.

That is one thing I have noticed with research is to steer clear of porn and movies. I really appreciate the advice.

Glad to help if we can. We been in our Femdom lifestyle for years been married for 53 years and still young at heart.

If we can be of any help, let us know what your interests are. We will be happy to share any resources that we have access to.

Thank you i really appreciate it