New Domme Seeking Advice

Hi, I’m looking for some advice on a new kink/dynamic me and my boyfriend are exploring

I’m a little in a DDLG dynamic, for about 1,5 years now.

Usually I have only taken the submissive role as my daddy’s little/princess/Brat, but a few months ago because of a poker game he lost I was allowed to dom him for the night. As a revenge for all the punishments he gave me.

During the scene he found out that he also likes being a submissive to me, being degraded and humiliated by me, and being forced to wear pink girly clothes, occasionally.

We called this Miss Baby time.

At first I didn’t really like it, because I felt really overwhelmed by the amount of power I suddenly had of him just listening to me and I didn’t know what to do with it. It’s a big transition to go from being a bratty little to suddenly having the power, but I also really wanted to keep doing this for him because he really wanted to explore his new kinks.

So now we have planned a whole weekend of Miss Baby time. He made me a list of all his limits and what he likes. Yesterday we already did- what started off as a joke scene cuz he denied me chicken nugget's (which is a criminal offense in my book) Though yesterday I took on a more Dom/Queen/Bully role instead of just being a brat out for revenge like last time. And he did really like it. And I did too.

So I’m here because I still feel like I’m very new to kink as a submissive, and now especially being a dom is just very new to me, and just feel absolutely clueless, like I don’t know where to start or what to do most of the time, and I feel like im lacking a lot of confidence to be a dom.

I’d really like to learn from people with more experience, especially Dommes who can share some advice or guidance.

Since my Dom dosen't like computers, I post for her & myself.

We've been in a Femdom marriage for years and your post shows some very important aspects of a D/s relationship. You're already having fun, listening to each other, and respecting each other.

The only thing we see (if we're understanding correctly) is that you're letting yourself get too concerned with being "absolutely clueless". We were the same way and got overwhelmed with concerns about not doing it right. You two sound fantastically compatible, so just take it slow, have fun, and you will amaze yourselves at how easily things will fall into place.

One Kink Master we follow said, "Your submission should be as unique as your fingerprint." Use that as a guideline for your dynamic and you will be fine.
Another person we follow has an "Erotic Bucket List" with over 100 ideas on it that you can try - these are sexual, not just D/s ideas.

One thing we did that we found helpful, was searching YouTube by putting in what we were looking for and watching Doms, etc. that we felt comfortable with. Remember, what you want is what's important, not what anyone else thinks or says is best for you.