Slaves, what are the ideal traits of a master?

Slaves, what are the ideal traits of a master?

wantlove • Oct 21, 2024

Hi, I'm new to the BDSM community. My past experiences have led me to believe I have a dominant personality and I'm interested in exploring a Master/slave dynamic. I'm looking for a partner who is also interested in this type of relationship, and I want to understand what she might expect from me as her Master.

I know this is a complex topic, and there's no single "right" answer, but I'd appreciate any insights you can offer. What qualities and characteristics do you think are important in a Master? I have high expectations for a partner, and I'd want someone who also has high expectations for me.

To be clear, when I say "slave," I mean someone who enjoys submitting to another person and finds fulfillment in serving them. This doesn't necessarily have to be sexual; it's more about the power exchange and the feeling of being cared for and cherished within that dynamic. If my understanding of "slave" needs adjusting, please let me know. I'm still learning.

Key qualities that I would value in a Master are strong communication skills, assertiveness, responsibility, genuine care, and a deep understanding of the partner. Physical strength and financial stability are also important.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and any other qualities you think are important. I'm asking because I want to become the best possible Master for my future partner. Thank you.

Sincorrigible​(sub female) • Oct 21, 2024

In addition to what you list : decent and good human being, so that I can respect him. Good listener. Caring, consistent, self aware and introspective, reflective. Willing to learn. Sorted - emotionally. Stable. Empathic. Able to play the ds game of switching /manipulating headspace.

At least mildly obsessed with ds.

dollMaker​(dom male) • Oct 23, 2024

A slave is a very particular type of person, requiring and giving very different energy to that, of a kinkster, a bottom, or a submissive - its more likely you encounter the latter three than the first, also while any of the latter three might use the word master, being one, is a very different thing to being a dominant .

Depending on the culture, master can be a state of mind, type of energy, but more often than not it refers to a very experienced, skilled, long serving/active individual, and in leather culture its a title given by peers to someone who has earned the title through various actions, in away similar to say a wood worker or jeweler being called a master crafts person.

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 23, 2024

Hello I’m new to the BDSM spotlight and this conversation caught my eye. I believe I’m a Sub and the things you saying are what I was looking for but what are the actual requirements for a Sub in this situation because I’m still trying to figure out if I want a dom or master

wantlove • Oct 23, 2024

I'm on a journey of self-improvement and exploration within the BDSM lifestyle. I'm eager to learn new skills and become a supportive and experienced partner who can inspire devotion in a submissive/slave. I believe in a dynamic built respect, trust, and care. I desire a partner who is enthusiastic about exploring their submissive side and willing to share their time, obedience, and love. In return, I offer my unwavering love, support, and commitment to creating a fulfilling and exciting life together. I do understand the difference of submissive and slave, either would be compatible for me. But I wish to improve myself to the point, my partner would willing become mine and give up her control, for me there is nothing more that shows her respect and love for me. I suppose my ideal woman would be a slave type.

For now, I do not consider myself worthy of a slave. So, I suppose I can't consider myself a master as I have not earned that title. Someday I wish to be worthy, and will try to improve. My original goal of this forum post was to see what my future partner will need from me so I can begin a process of self improvement. If anyone has suggestions of skills I should master, or any other ideas I'd be grateful.

Thank you all for your responses, they have been very helpful.

wantlove • Oct 23, 2024

My understanding of a submissive, is that is it someone who finds fulfillment in surrendering control to their partner. They show their love to their partner, by letting the partner take the dominant role in the power dynamics of the relationship. I am still learning, and my definition will surely grow and evolve when I become more knowledgeable. The submissive doesn't give up full control of all aspects of their lives however, and the part they do give up control on is negotiated by both in the relationship.

I don't really know what the requirements are, I suppose you could be submissive in many different ways. It depends on the individual and relationship I would risk guessing. I had a girl who leaned towards being a submissive, but only in the bedroom. She'd let me take full control and do nearly anything, but outside the bedroom she was fully independent. Really the only power she let me have over her was I say when her panties drop.

Difference between dom and master for me is harder, they do seem very similar. I'm still trying to figure that out.

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 23, 2024

Oh ok I understand what you are saying but I would want to be controlled in the bedroom and out of the bedroom as well so would I still be a sub or slave in your personal opinion. Sorry if asking to many questions you profile is just more relatable

wantlove • Oct 23, 2024

Not necessarily, a submissive could want to give up control outside the bedroom too. But if you're interested in giving over all control to your partner, down to them managing your time, choosing your clothes, making sure you stay healthy, etc then sounds like you'd want to be a slave instead of submissive. But they both have a lot in common, it'd be hard for someone to know for sure without being in a relationship and experimenting. If you have limits to what you don't want to give up control on then maybe you're submissive in certain areas. I don't know, I'm still trying to figure things out

MelanQuinn​(sub female) • Oct 23, 2024

😊 ok I understand what you saying complete control Slave, certain amount of control Sub. thank you so much for your response and advice 🥰 So last question I swear do you have advice on how to meet people on here 😅

wantlove • Oct 23, 2024

I just send messages to interesting people based on their profiles, quite a few have responded. Although I do get ignored quite a bit too. I have only been using this community for learning and chatting, not for finding a partner. I would be bet you'll a higher response rate then me.