SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕}
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3 years ago •
Mar 19, 2021
Jesus! Here people are talking about going a day or so without contact and I'm.like, "shit! If I go a few HOURS, I get anxious".
Wanna talk about needy. *Points to self* right here! |
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Zedland(dom male)
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3 years ago •
Mar 19, 2021
As for my two cents there is a difference between being needy (which is not a bad thing) and clingy (which is a bad thing as it shows obsessive fixation).
Everyone of us has a need for human interaction, affection, and attention from our partner(s). Some people are fine with the occasional 'head pat' and note. Others need a more sustained presence. There is nothing wrong with either and they are particular to the person. It is when expectations don't match that problems arise. We can't communicate open and honestly if we don't share how often we'd like that to happen after all. |
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SageFlame(sub female)
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3 years ago •
Mar 19, 2021
Validation
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.
I will share what I have learned and what helps me. It is our nature and human biological need to be secure in a relationship in which we are accepted without pretense. If we were not taught that we are valid and loved when young then we seek external validation as adults. This often leaves us vulnerable to partnering with those who have no empathy. In short, building a resource within in which you feel secure, loved and validated is the only way to pull out of the " neediness" you mentioned. Though I wouldn't call it needy but natural right to feel loved. What has helped me: -Exploring and gaining knowledge about self love. - finding support from others - positive affirmations - writing things out in a journal - acquiring skills to process unpleasant emotions. - spending time alone with a new hobby If you'd like to connect or have questions shoot me a PM. I hope something I've offered helps you in someway!. |
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