A good sub

alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } • Feb 12, 2022

Ohhh another thing a good reference starting point would be the submissive guide. It's a site with good articles and info

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} • Feb 12, 2022

I agree with what all the others have said.

SLOWWWWWWW YOUR ROLLL!!!!

You may think you know what you want, but as you learn and grow, what you think now, and what you feel in 2,4,6 months will be different and then even more different after years. You're young which is prime to LEARN and not jump in.

Let me give you an example:

You may know what courses and major you want to study in school. Do you skip the classes and jump right into the exams? NO. The classes and assignments are for you to learn, to prepare for the exams.

Use that same thought process when thinking of this lifestyle. And to stick with the school / education analogy, many change their majors, just like you will change in this LS.

And lastly, any good Dom will recognize Sub Frenzy and tell you to back up and slow down. They will NOT ask, pressure or "order" you to do anything. They will give the same advice as the others here have.

Remember SSC always.

Wishing you all the best.

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Feb 12, 2022

Deception is definitely not conducive to meeting someone and not being upfront about your experience (or lack of) is hardly going to foster any trust on behalf of prospective suitors. Some time spent on learning effective communication skills will be greatly beneficial.

Notely • Feb 13, 2022

Focus on you and evolve and growing more being you within you on this Journey blooming beauty. Love is rare But comes with time. Don’t focus looking for a relationship look for a genuine connection someone can get emotionally invested before getting hooked you have to allow things grow get to know someone see if you both click by by effect and blue prints not sweet words. You don’t have to reply to everyone no answer is a answer just delete does not respect your wishes this your temple not theirs they need to respect your temple get in to it has to exchange trust with energy shown can not just be given. Put yourself not available for everyone not on the market not single not taken just living not taking crap takes someone truly sees through respects you light that fire. But you still be someone but let things flow keep yourself busy focusing on you and your goals , dreams and passion their will be time for love but won’t happen over night it will happen when unexpected with not one is thinking. Keep looking not for a person but for your passion, Your Love, Your Courage, Your goals, your Dreams., your happiness, yourself. keep looking. Explore your worth before you explore another. know your worth. Know yourself only then will you know what you need over what you want. You need yourself to become your own.

Don't expect love to build a connection, allow it to flow and grow over time and let it be the best. Our souls do not speak a human language they communicate to us through symbols , metaphors , visions , poetry , deep feeling , and everyday magic.

Life is all about balance , Balance is not something you find ,It's something you create. Balance is the key to everything. What we do think say , Meeting them all requires awareness and through this awareness we can grow. Best of luck keep blooming. 💐

Starting out

THE GENTLE DOM​(dom male) • Feb 13, 2022

Hi, like you I am new here too, most of the sub females know that.

From talking to other members there are alot of fake Dom's on this site, so do be careful.

Incase you wonder as a Dom I made just about every mistake that you can.

Came out all guns blazing,tried to be over confident.

The female subs saw straight through me in no time.

Luckily I asked for their help and advice which came in bucket loads. I also listened and took action to correct my mistakes which were genuine mistakes.

Have met some really good members on here and starting to find my feet.

As other subs say just take your time.

Hope this helps.

Re: Starting out

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Feb 13, 2022

You're throwing around the term "fake dom" a lot. In your blog and now here in the forum. There are a significant number of what a lot of us call "Instadoms" here (and everywhere) for that matter - but taking other women's word for it that certain men are "fake doms" or somehow less worthy than or more nefarious than yourself is a misstep. You're running the risk of being hoodwinked by those who have axes of their own to grind and see in you the opportunity to co-op you and mold you into little more than a "yes man" with a dom label behind his name. Seek advice, to be sure, but be temperate in how you interpret it. As always - just my own opinion along with a bit of insight based on what I've personally witnessed in these types of situations.

THE GENTLE DOM​(dom male) • Feb 13, 2022

Just trying to help.

The information came from one female sub and some male Dom's with alot of experience and time on this site.


Point noted.

You have a good weekend.

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Feb 14, 2022

It seems you've accomplished a feat nearly unheard of in the kink communities. Doms are notoriously stingy when it comes to mentoring other doms yet you've seemingly corralled an entire team of those elusive and reticent creatures to stand at the ready for you. It's inspiring to see the whole hearted and singular efforts being expended by subs and doms alike on your behalf.

THE GENTLE DOM​(dom male) • Feb 14, 2022

So, against my megre experience how long have you been a sub female and how long have you been on this site?

Can't take your profile date as you may have had a break at some point.

Gaiawolf​(sub female){RogueWolf} • Feb 14, 2022

Learn yourself. Find a mentor/friend to help you. I thought I knew what I wanted/needed. I am a extremely submissive woman and thought I had to be a certain way to find my one. Luckily I had alot of friends to help me slow down, think, and encouraged me to realize that we are all HUMAN first.

How to "treat them? Like any other person you would meet on the street and want to chat with. If Day 1 they are demanding titles and telling you what you may or may not do or say, RUN, fast and hard. The block button is your friend.
Make them get to know you. They should ask as many questions about you, non-kink, as you want to know about them. If all you or they ask is kink related, that is the dynamic you will have. For some that's all they want and more power to them. But if you want someone who is more then that, someone you can have a full and fulfilling relationship with both kink and vanilla, then approach as you would a vanilla suiter with a dash of the occasional kink thrown in till you are comfortable that he is who you want. But more important that he encourages you to be 100% true to who you feel you are and want to grow to become.