Zelia
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
We’re different, I do many, many things for myself that have absolutely nothing to do with being seen or validated. Only this morning I did CrossFit with a group of really good friends. Individual workout. Everything I did was for me. For my wellness. Literally nothing to do with anyone else in the box. I don’t need to be seen by them or to be validated by them. They’re my friends. I appreciate them, and they appreciate me but we are all very much individuals and don’t need anyone else to see us or validate us. We compete against ourselves, we are improving ourselves. The notion that we do it for any other reason is against everything we believe in as a group.
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A Cloud(sub female){Owned}
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
JustAlice - I agree and I see your point. There are definitely things we do to enrich our soul and for ourselves alone. That wasn't exactly my point but all good. I cannot and don't want to speak for you. I say these things with complete acknowledgement and respect for individuality and varying perspectives.
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Zelia
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
Everything about being human and interacting with others is to do with being seen and validated.
I was responding to this ⬆️ |
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
JustAlice wrote: Everything about being human and interacting with others is to do with being seen and validated.
I was responding to this ⬆️ Will it help if I change 'everything about' to 'much of'? I don't mean to offend you. I respect you, your values and ideas. For me, an opinion is not a reflection of a person. I like ideas and discussions but I do not like point scoring. |
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Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker}
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
Extreme snip for focus:
Betty Tails wrote: Everything about being human and interacting with others is to do with being seen and validated. It's normal behaviour for a group of more than one. How do we know we are accepted? Through validation of being seen and valued in whatever form that comes in. We cannot live freely without it being at someone else's expense. It's astonishing, at times, to read such fervent declarations - to see people lumping everyone else under the same umbrella they themselves take shelter under. It seems to be a regular occurrence here, though.
As for me? No. I don't feel an overwhelming urge or need to run with a pack or jump through hoops to solicit attention and admiration. I can't think of any instance where my own brand of "freedom" infringed on, or came at the expense of someone else. Unless there are those who feel that my denying access to myself equals me infringing on *their* rights. Not everyone approaches social interactions as a competitive sport whose end goal is to be praised or validated by across the board approval from whatever audience they perceive themselves as playing to. But, I digress. What's objectionable and absurd is the OP positing that any woman who, for some reason, won't take time to answer every message she gets, should remove her picture and hide under a rock so other men don't have to see her or get confused over why she's hanging around. The complaint seems to have been inspired by someone telling him they're overwhelmed by too many messages - so the apparent solution is supposed to be: remove any and all pictures of yourself and all the men here will immediately understand and accept that as a clear signal that the lady isn't available or in the running. In reality, as I noted earlier, not even a collar and several emphatic warnings on my own profile deter the chronically horny and oblivious types that frequently make their rounds here. The observations made by a few are the equivalent of blaming a rape victim for leading her attacker on in some way. But hey, women are just here for the pleasure of any random dude who shows up and has a need he demands be filled, right? 😉 |
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A Cloud(sub female){Owned}
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
Spellbound Wytch wrote: Extreme snip for focus:
Betty Tails wrote: Everything about being human and interacting with others is to do with being seen and validated. It's normal behaviour for a group of more than one. How do we know we are accepted? Through validation of being seen and valued in whatever form that comes in. We cannot live freely without it being at someone else's expense. It's astonishing, at times, to read such fervent declarations - to see people lumping everyone else under the same umbrella they themselves take shelter under. It seems to be a regular occurrence here, though.
As for me? No. I don't feel an overwhelming urge or need to run with a pack or jump through hoops to solicit attention and admiration. I can't think of any instance where my own brand of "freedom" infringed on, or came at the expense of someone else. Unless there are those who feel that my denying access to myself equals me infringing on *their* rights. Not everyone approaches social interactions as a competitive sport whose end goal is to be praised or validated by across the board approval from whatever audience they perceive themselves as playing to. But, I digress. What's objectionable and absurd is the OP positing that any woman who, for some reason, won't take time to answer every message she gets, should remove her picture and hide under a rock so other men don't have to see her or get confused over why she's hanging around. The complaint seems to have been inspired by someone telling him they're overwhelmed by too many messages - so the apparent solution is supposed to be: remove any and all pictures of yourself and all the men here will immediately understand and accept that as a clear signal that the lady isn't available or in the running. In reality, as I noted earlier, not even a collar and several emphatic warnings on my own profile deter the chronically horny and oblivious types that frequently make their rounds here. The observations made by a few are the equivalent of blaming a rape victim for leading her attacker on in some way. But hey, women are just here for the pleasure of any random dude who shows up and has a need he demands be filled, right? 😉 Hi, I thought you might have something to say. Didn't read your post. As I said it's not a personal thing. ✌️ |
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Zelia
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2 years ago •
Mar 17, 2022
Betty Tails wrote: JustAlice wrote: Everything about being human and interacting with others is to do with being seen and validated.
I was responding to this ⬆️ Will it help if I change 'everything about' to 'much of'? I don't mean to offend you. I respect you, your values and ideas. For me, an opinion is not a reflection of a person. I like ideas and discussions but I do not like point scoring. I’ve no interest in point scoring. Not sure where that came from. Not my game |
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