Advice

Cello Trance​{for You} • Jan 25, 2025

To me as a Hypno daddy Dom aftercare is extremely vital. I want someone to come out of a trance session feeling completely loved, taken care of and also I make sure that they feel good the rest of the day. That’s something you can do for someone during their trance session .

So with someone I know and care about and have a relationship with, I may give them multiple orgasms during the session and then after all that activity, I make sure that they feel loved and cherished and cared for. I have trigger words also that I use to reinforce this.

Aftercare for me is one of the most important parts of a relationship. Just like a submissive wants their partner to feel good and taken care of, a Dom should do the same for his partner.I would say if this potential Dom doesn’t know that , you may want to be a little bit wary… but I’m not gonna tell you what to do at all. I’m just saying for this dude, this Daddy Dom, aftercare is the most important part of any session.

MountaintopMaster • Jan 25, 2025

I find that my ADHD needs very specific examples to compare and contrast; that is the best way for me to know if I'm "being too much" ...or if I'm on the right track.

So, as a DD with ~5 years of experience both online and IRL, here is how I would answer the aftercare question...

IRL:
My favorite thing to do is to just hold you, gently, not too tightly, and quietly whisper that I'm right here, you're amazing, you did perfectly, I am very satisfied, and everything is okay, we are safe and sound, together.

If I decide that we need water or snacks, I make sure to tell you that I'm just getting up for a moment, I'll be back in a second, if the water / snacks are beyond arm's reach, haha. If either of us needs to get up, to go to the bathroom or anything, I give assistance in standing, and reassurance that everything is okay, I'll be right here (in the bed or wherever) when they get back...

I gradually transition to changing the subject, talking about what we might do the rest of the day or the next day, and drawing your attention forward, hopefully to something positive, relaxing, and offering a continued connection. (This might not be possible if one or both partners need to hop on a plane early the next morning, of course.)


Online:

I do my best to deliver the same communication as described above. I never just pass out after I "finish", if I finish, and I always make sure that my sub is settled in safe and sound for the night (or day) before I go offline and get back to my own IRL. Sometimes this means that we chat for an hour or more after a scene is done, a mix of the reassurances, the forward-looking planning, and maybe a little bit of assessment of the scene itself, if appropriate.

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So, quite honestly, if a Dom gives this lengthy of feedback about questions regarding sexual contact or kink scenes, but gives one-liners about aftercare, to me that is indeed a red flag.