What do you think a dominant owes their partner?”

Texasdays​(dom male) • Dec 28, 2025

I won't get hung up on the word owe, but I do believe that the term power exchange is appropriate for any D/s dynamic. As you put it, the sub submits, and allows the Dom to lead the dynamic. Now, specifically to your question, what is expected of the Dom. To me, it is absolutely expected that the Dom in the dynamic has the responsibility from that point on to make sure that the agreed upon dynamic unfolds in all aspects as it has been discussed between the two. It is very much our responsibility to honor our end of the power exchange and lead the both of us to the place we feel comfortable, content, and fulfilled. To me at least, that is the point. If the sub is constantly having to redirect, remind, or set new boundaries in a dynamic, then the Dom is simply not upholding their end of it. We are given both a wonderful gift, and a great responsibility for that gift, and we must prove that we are who the person we have portrayed to our partners. It is a very different dynamic to me than what people in the "vanilla" world would accept, but if it's right you you and your partner, then nothing could be more honest or greater. Just my opinion though.

Miike​(switch male) • Jan 4, 2026

If in that role i feel the burden of ensuring my partner's needs were/are met. I is really fortunate that Her (it is much more fun if their desires) kinks were so compatable with mine meeting that was still very very fun.
Most of all saftey/respect/care always is your priority 1 when top...
But thats only my inexperienced position lol.

Miss Anima​(dom female) • Jan 6, 2026

Words shouldn't mean different things to different people
Far to many hair splitting going on now days

Blues​(switch male) • Jan 7, 2026

Mutual respect, care, and safety are fundamental. Everything else branches off from there.

Ms Syx​(dom female) • Jan 10, 2026

I think Domme or Dom has a responsibility to guide the relationship with open communication on both the D/s sides, with respect. The authority never replaces consent. While it is of mutual responsibility for both in the relationship to communicate, I believe that Dm should be adamant about where a partner is emotionally, mentally, physically and transparency. They should be leading the charge with care to build a cohesive heavy on the communication "Relationship"

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Jan 11, 2026

It’s very simple ( not that easy, but very simple)
HONESTY

The Number one Sir​(dom male) • Jan 16, 2026

Take time to learn and understand the submissive under their control, to spend thought on their relationship from both sides, to increase trust, deepen control. Relationships are a journey not a destination. Self reflection goes a long way....