Sweet Minx(sub female)
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1 year ago •
Sep 26, 2024
Queer Lovemaking wrote: I submit in a re-enactment and subsequent release of shame.
I give away something that was taken from me and in doing so I reclaim it. Isn't that what this whole multi-billion dollar business is about? Has anyone else in the world ever noticed that BDSM players tend to be of the bourgeoisie? Raise your hand if you dabble in the lifestyle out of an excess of privilege and boredom. It makes sense. Kinko gear is bleeding expensive. Ummm nope. Not dabbling or bored or any of that. It's okay if that's your thing, just make it clear that this isn't serious for you maybe... |
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Miki
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1 year ago •
Sep 27, 2024
@Queer Lovemaking-- Due respect, but that's a bit of an over-generalization regarding "BDSM Players". And not all "kinko gear" is all that expensive. It depends on how far one wants to go, as in setting up a well-equipped home dungeon or for those without capacious basements a "dungeon room". Rigging and all that can be expensive, but my point is not all who are into this need or want high-end shit like that.
When I was active, I especially enjoyed suspension play (not all the time and never a "condition" for consenting to be a "subject") but few, if any playmates I knew were inclined to punch holes in their ceilings to accomodate a hook or ring for attaching wrist (or foot) rings to. So being bound to bedposts was more than good enough, same for a makeshift whipping post or various other things those I was a subject for knew I was especially into. ---------------------------------------- So... Definitely not as far as I was able to see, "BDSM Players" are not all bourgeoisie. And don't a lot of things that are enjoyable have multi-billion dollar (or multi-million) businesses attached to it? Setting kink and sex and all that aside, consider amusement parks... The Disney Empire... Hollywood or The Cinema / streaming.. The list goes on. --------------------------------------- I guess I'm just sounding off, so to speak, because "bourgeoisie" is such a shitty word for (as-defined) middle / working class. What you posted doesn't apply to me, but that's strictly my opinion. |
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Literate Lycan(dom male)
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1 year ago •
Sep 27, 2024
Queer Lovemaking wrote: Has anyone else in the world ever noticed that BDSM players tend to be of the bourgeoisie?
Raise your hand if you dabble in the lifestyle out of an excess of privilege and boredom. It makes sense. Kinko gear is bleeding expensive. Interesting perspective or perhaps just experience. Perhaps players are. I'd tend to believe those who feel it is an inherent part of who they are probably don't consider themselves players, so perhaps that's the distinction. Many (some who have added their thoughts above) consider "the lifestyle" part of who they are, not just a game or sometime to while away their bored hours. You may be correct that some who fall into the category of BDSM players are simply bored and filling in the gaps. While others who consider BDSM instrumental in their physical and mental well-being are in it for the lifestyle and all it entails. Maybe this deserves it's own forum post. |
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HayleyE(sub female)
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1 year ago •
Oct 16, 2024
For me I enjoy pleasing him, if he wants to fuck my face I take it as a compliment. Personally I’m not super into the roughness but I’m not afraid to get my face all messy!
I guess it’s fun to fool around and I enjoy making him feel good |
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Dragaenfly(sub female){Daddy's}
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1 year ago •
Oct 18, 2024
For me and Daddy, it started out with me shocking him. I asked him to "fuck my face like you paid for it". Now he regularly does because we both love it. I love the entire experience, the getting out of my head, trying and failing to be perfect, the coming repercussions of failing, and swallowing him down. He loves it, of course, and loves that I do too
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BuddWeaver(sub male)
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3 months ago •
Oct 7, 2025
my wife will sometimes face fuck me with a dildo, I don’t even think that it’s sexually arousing for her. But I enjoy how much she laughs at me when I’m gagging.
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Anna Lynn(sub female)
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3 months ago •
Oct 7, 2025
I did it for several different reasons.
First, I absolutely love giving blow jobs, performing cock worship and face fucking because I loved the taste of his dick and his ejaculate. I loved it so much I would often beg for him to allow me to do it. Absolutely one of my favorite things. Second, It brought me an immense amount of joy to know that he was getting his pleasure from me and he was sexually satisfied by all that we did. It was a form of breath play that both he and I enjoyed immensely ( which I hadn’t considered before until recently). Lastly, I enjoyed being used for his pleasure. For me, it was a form of objectification. I was his little sexy slut and play toy and for me, it was a display of my love and devotion to the man I loved. Just thinking about it and having him all over my face…. and hearing him say “good girl” *swoon* P.S- I don’t do what I do because I’m bored and need some excitement in my life. I do what I do because it is who I am and the way that I love. |
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A Nomadic Man(dom male)
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3 months ago •
Oct 13, 2025
Surprisingly, most women I've been with were not particularly interested in facefucking or deepthroating, and were, in fact, much more open to anal sex. I suppose for many people, the discomfort of choking, gagging, and being out of breath may not be enjoyable.
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playforkink(sub female)
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2 months ago •
Nov 5, 2025
The ability to take him all the way, or the challenge is the start for me. Then there’s the added potential breath play element with the right partner, and if a tear rolls down my cheek when I’m being face fucked… it’s so gratifying and the biggest turn on.
It’s giving pleasure, submission, degradation all rolled into the perfect act. |
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| SleepyLex(sub female) |
2 months ago •
Nov 6, 2025
Personally it feels like a hot power exchange. Like please make a mess of me in order to show you hold more power and dominance over me while simultaneously marking me all over my face
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