Sadism and Masochism

KnottyBunny • Aug 30, 2020

The award... what award? 🤣

And honey, he is not "my guy". He is more talk than anything else...

"I want to beat barbed wire into your skin". Good little sub (yes I was a sub at thr
E time) goes and buys barbed wire and prepares it. Guess where it has sat for 2 months. Yeah, still in the bag I put it in but now it is in a dump somewhere.

simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} • Aug 31, 2020

I'll throw in a newer evolution of RACK to the mix that fits my personal masochism-

PRICK

Personal
Responsibility
Informed
Consensual
Kink

https://lovingbdsm.kaylalords.com/2018/05/02/ssc-rack-prick/amp/

Re: Limits

shahh • Aug 31, 2020

Hate to break it to ya, but those are limits too. Why not pound her until the nails rip out? You can think you don't have limits, but clearly you do. Far reaching ones...but they're there. You can call it whatever you want; preferences, 'not your thing' or whatever, but if for whatever reason you won't do something, that's a limit.

DrWakko • Aug 31, 2020

Anyone who says they don’t have limits is full of shit. I’m pretty sure death is a limit for everyone. Keeping all their limbs might be a limit. I’m sure being forced to drink bleach is a limit. Maybe even fucking a cow. All these are limits. Please don’t say you have none.

KnottyBunny • Aug 31, 2020

I would give him my life willingly. I love him that much.

shahh • Aug 31, 2020

AriesGoddess​(masochist female)
5 days ago • 08/25/2020 9:41 am
"Thank you. Everyone I've talked to just tells me "Well thats not BDSM". Everyone gets hung up on the feelings of it all and needing to care. We just don't care and won't."

Also hate to break it to you...but 'love' is very much a feeling and love doesn't existing without caring. So all I see is a lot of confusion and conflicting statements throughout this thread. It is perfectly OK to love pain and still love someone. Inflicting/accepting pain doesn't mean lack of love or caring...it's just a different kind of love and beautiful in it's own right.

DrWakko • Aug 31, 2020

Your comment and limits are two different things. My submissive could love me so much she will take a bullet for me or donate part of her liver, give me her kidney or donate her blood to me.

That is how ever different than me saying: “in this scene I’m going to cut off a body part dress you like a baby and feed you said body part.”

Another example. Someone serving in the military is willing to give their life for this country. This doesn’t mean they are willing to be a target for live fire drills.

SweetSirRendering​(sub female) • Aug 31, 2020

you don’t have to adhere to ssc to be one in the community, however there are activities that won’t be widely acceptable in general community due to liability and image. S/M can of course exist and does with or without the D/s dynamics.

my relationship is not S/M only, but my dynamic is often misunderstood by limited understanding and frowned on by some thinking CNC is forced/ rape play only (that is just one element that isn’t actually required in a cnc dynamic. ssc is completely subjective. we love each other deeply. We are many things and Sadist/masochist are one. lovey dovey is there, we are madly deeply in love, but not when we let the S/m out; that is a place of feelings, but not from the heart.

We do have limits based primarily on paying attention and desire to not end up needing an ER visit, we are still S/m. if your specific brand of kink requires more than basic first aid, you are still S/M, but your specific kinks may not be widely accepted because it’s too ..”messy” on several levels for a diverse community. i find that unfortunate, but i do get it and i am sure there are S/M specific communities, but i bet they are not as easy to find when edge play itself is too taboo a topic for many public arenas except to admonish.

i haven’t had coffee yet, so i hope this entire post isnt without a point, but i just got tired of talking hahaha😅. have a lovely day <3

shesosweet​(sub female) • Sep 1, 2020

Thanks for the award 👍

hank submissive male​(sub male) • Sep 1, 2020

That's your business but informed opinion most people in the bdsm community warn against playing with someone with no limits as someone has already pointed out R ACK is where this comes in to play I guess if you and her are both aware of the risk then whatever floats your boat. But when look for someone if there profile says no limits I stay away but at least they are honest and put it in their profile