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What do you wish you were told when you were brand new

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velvet_tears_13​(sub female){BabyGirl}
1 year ago • Fri 14 Jul 2017 04:48:31 AM IDT

What do you wish you were told when you were brand new

velvet_tears_13​(sub female){BabyGirl} • Fri 14 Jul 2017 04:48:31 AM IDT
I am very new to this lifestyle. I started my training less than a week ago. I already know I enjoy it.

Is there anything you wish someone had told you when you were new?
SanE​(sub male)
1 year ago • Fri 14 Jul 2017 07:32:32 AM IDT
SanE​(sub male) • Fri 14 Jul 2017 07:32:32 AM IDT
Something along the lines of: You are not alone, there are others like you. Also: kinky people are regular folk, don't be ashamed of who you are. Last one: Not everything has to be about kink.
SirLothario​(dom male)
1 year ago • Thu 24 Aug 2017 06:17:31 PM IDT
SirLothario​(dom male) • Thu 24 Aug 2017 06:17:31 PM IDT
*Don't let anyone tell you that what you desire is any less valid than theirs.
*Don't hold onto shame for being who you are. Embrace and grow.
*This too is sacred.
Subjazzy​(sub male)
1 year ago • Sat 26 Aug 2017 05:23:07 PM IDT
Subjazzy​(sub male) • Sat 26 Aug 2017 05:23:07 PM IDT
I grew up with a very strict family and I was taught kinky sexuality was bad and sinful. I wish someone told me it was ok to have the kinky submissive desires that i have. I have spent too many years suppressing these feelings. Now i just want to let loose and explore.
Tyingkittens​(dom male)
1 year ago • Sun 27 Aug 2017 09:26:01 AM IDT
Tyingkittens​(dom male) • Sun 27 Aug 2017 09:26:01 AM IDT
Take your time. Bdsm isnt going anywhere.

And thats its normal to feel a liitle guilty at first but it will pass because its all ok between consenting adults.
Pazyfae​(sub female){Not collar}
1 year ago • Sat 09 Sep 2017 04:30:11 PM IDT
Pazyfae​(sub female){Not collar} • Sat 09 Sep 2017 04:30:11 PM IDT
First of all that being a submissive does not mean you have to crawl at every Dom's feet. That respect and honesty has to be mutual in D/s relationship. That you should meet other people who are into this lifestyle and make some friends, just because it is good to have someone to talk to when needed, and sometimes those people might be a support for you.
1 Scarlett​(switch female)
1 year ago • Sat 09 Sep 2017 05:40:27 PM IDT
1 Scarlett​(switch female) • Sat 09 Sep 2017 05:40:27 PM IDT
You will get lots of advice about what being a sub "means". Remember that everyone is different and if both you and your Dom are happy that is all that matters. Don't let someone elses idea of what a sub should or should not be make you feel like you are not good enough and start doing things that make you uncomfortable and will likely damage you in the long run.
Just be yourself and take your time.
Bunnie
1 year ago • Sat 09 Sep 2017 11:56:06 PM IDT
Bunnie • Sat 09 Sep 2017 11:56:06 PM IDT
Maybe something along the lines of...It will be one of the hardest yet rewarding journeys of self discovery you've found yourself on so far. There will be a lot of tears, some heartbreak, a lot of orgasms and the deepest most honest connections with people you'll ever have experienced. Cherish the whole ride, good and bad, because it leads to who you truly are. Either that or... you'll be fine, just remember... you chose this. Lol