Reaching Subspace

Reaching Subspace

MeekMarionette​(sub female){Not collar} • May 19, 2020

I frequently tell Sir that I am a lot of work. Meaning it takes a lot for me to reach my "mountain top" so-to-speak. And, I have never reached subspace either. So, discussing subspace with Sir, I told him I don't think it's possible for a sub to get there without some form of physical touch or stimulation from the dominant.
What do you guys think?
Especially those who are in online dynamics, have you been able to reach subspace when there is distance between a dom and sub?

Please share...

skyrich​(dom male){rottenbrat} • May 19, 2020

It is possible to hit subspace without physical touch... but if you've never experienced subspace before that's probably not yet possible for you. Getting there without some form of physical touch requires a VERY deep and intimate connection.

tallslenderguy​(other male) • May 19, 2020

As with many things it seems the adage: "results may vary" applies.

i think there are a lot of variables and factors involved, and it might be more accurate to narrow it down and say: "I don't think it's possible for [me] to get there without some form of physical touch or stimulation from the dominant." And even narrowing the statement to just you, i'd personally weave a little bit of doubt in for wiggle room?

We're all different. Some are more fluid and malleable than others, others may seem downright static, like rock.

i can only speak for myself, but personally? When a Dom accurately (not presumptively) finds what i call a "collaring place" in me, then knows how to "collar" it, it can be done with words, attitude or physically, He may or may not be physically present in the room. i have been brought into subspace by things written.
Physical touch or stimulation is an added tool with me, but not necessary. For me, withholding touch can get and keep my at the edge of subspace. The hornier i am, the more submissive i get. There are lots of ways to make me horny. Orgasm control (i.e., withholding) keeps me close to the edge of horny and makes me very malleable. And that's not a quid pro quo thing for me either, i.e. the promise of orgasm is not a motivator for me, depending on how it happens, it can be a deterrent (again, "results may vary" because we are all wired differently).

Self stimulation/self edging in response to a Dom can put me in subspace.

i have not spent a lot of time in subspace, but i have been there and know it when there. A Dom i didn't really know, what started as a hook up at a gay resort, got me into subspace... or on my way, almost within ten minutes of meeting Him. Within about a half hour, i was there, sooooo there. Hell, just them memory practically takes me there. After keeping me there for about four or five hours? (after He came) He said He wanted to take me to dinner and we dressed and were walking to a restaurant a couple of miles away. As we walked down the street, He casually reached over, slipped His hand in my shorts and ran HIs finger down my crack without Him breaking stride or even looking at me. That instantly put me back in subspace.